100 Questions Before Marriage Blog

Are you in a relationship that is on shaky ground? Do you want to know how to save it before it ends? If you do then you need to learn what to do. Things can be done to put the relationship back on solid ground, but it will take some work.

If you made your partner mad then they may need a bit a time to calm down. Once they have done this, talk to them and see what happened that made them so mad. Tell them you are sorry and that it won’t happen again. Ask them what was that one thing that was said or done. If it was something stupid or callous that you did.

Now it might be that things are strained between both of you for no specific reason that can be named. This needs to be talked about too. Your partner could just be restless or bored. Maybe there is a way to spice your relationship back up. A two-day trip off away from everyone might be enough to spark the relationship up again.

Your partner may say it is something about your attitude. If they do say this, then listen to them without arguing. Do they say you are being too high minded for an example? If you are being this way you may need to get over yourself and try to see things from your partner’s point of view. Maybe you are just trying to be in charge too much and should learn how to let your partner run the show more often.

Remember that a relationship needs to be a partnership not a dictatorship. Both of you should have equal say in all things. When this balance gets tipped to one side or the other, the relationship can get a bit shaky.

Another reason for a relationship getting on the rocky side is what they call “empty nest syndrome”. This is when you have both been raising your children and suddenly they are gone to college or have gotten married. While you were busy with the kids you forgot to do coupling, and now you have to get to know each other again.

You may have to spend some time discussing what you now want to do with your lives now that you don’t have the kids to tie you down at home. This can put your relationship back on firm ground again.

As you can see here there are many reasons for a relationship to get shaky. Some of the reasons might be insurmountable like if you or your partner cheated on the other one. But most of the reasons with a little bit of effort can be worked on and the relationship can even be made stronger.

See you don’t have to just let a relationship go. With a bit of thought and effort you can save and keep the relationship going on for many more years. Now isn’t that why you entered into this relationship after all? Wouldn’t you go through life with a partner than alone? Most people like having someone to share things with. So talk things over and try to work things out before you just say goodbye. You will see that you probably can make your relationship solid again.

Asking questions of your partner when you are in a relationship, is a way to get to know them better.You may want to see how they view their future, their particular ambitions job wise, or even what their finances are all about.

If you have a serious relationship, you may need to know things like their intimate likes and dislikes.

There are different levels of relationships. Some are casual dating, serious dating, while others are heading towards marriage. You do not ask the same questions for casual or new dating relationships than you would for a more serious relationship.

Questions To Ask In A Relationship:

Good Questions to Ask a Fiancee

If you are planning to marry your partner, there are numerous questions you need to ask them. Listed in this section are some great questions for the serious dating relationship you may have whether they are heading toward marriage or not. However, if you are planning on marrying you need to ask you partner these questions below.

• Did your family like your last partner?
• Do you and your parents have a good relationship?
• What are your feelings about who my family is?
• Do you want to have any kids? If so how many?
• Do you enjoy socializing with other couples?
• Who will do the various chores inside and outside the house? Do you believe both partners should share the chores?
• Do you like watching TV in bed or do you believe the bedroom should be for other things?
• Can you get along with my friends like I get along with yours?

Financial and Career Questions to Ask Your Partner

This group of questions is again for the more ongoing relationship, where you are fairly committed to making it work. The answers you get should show you some in-depth information about your partner that you need to know.

• How much debt are you carrying?
• What is the first thing you would do if you won a million dollars?
• What is your idea for a dream career?
• Where do you see yourself in 20 years?
• How much is your present salary?
• What are your ambitions in your life?
• Do you use credit cards or do you believe in if you can’t pay cash you don’t need it?
• What are your monthly expenses?
• Are you willing to relocate to another part of the country, if the job paid enough?

Questions of Faith to Ask Your Partner

When you are serious in a relationship, you want your partner’s faith to blend with yours. This can cause conflicts otherwise here are some questions to ask:

• Are you a religious person?
• What are your basic religious beliefs?
• Do they go with my beliefs?
• Do you go to church? If so, how involved are you in your church?
• Is your whole family religious?

Health and Intimate Questions to Ask Your Partner

The following questions are for the more involved relationships:

• Do you have any health issues?
• What has been your most intimate experience?
• Who has been your most intimate partner?
• Do you still have feelings for an ex intimate partner?
• How long did your most intimate relationship last?

These are just some of the “questions to ask in a relationship”. Many other questions will come up along the way. Don’t be afraid to ask them! This is the only way to know each other.

Unhappy relationships have many of the same issues running through them. Below are a number of these issues explained for you. These are in no particular order of importance, but they do explain why relationships fail.

Ignoring the Facts: A lot of people faced with unhappy relationships basically ignore the reality of their situation. Some people might be trying to save face by acting as if everything is all right. They may not be able to come to terms that their partner is not the person they thought.

Number one may come up with reasons why that number two comes in late from their job every night, missing all family get together. Number one may come up with these reasons to hide the affair that number two is having so that their marriage will still look idyllic in public. Number one could just be ignoring the fact that number two is basically a workaholic. Whichever the reason it is still ignoring the facts as they are.

Losing the Romance: Many people do successfully keep the romance going during their whole relationship, but the glorious highly romantic feelings of the honeymoon time usually end.

The couples that can keep the fires lit often enough during their relationship have higher chances for going on for years, than those who lose the romance and can’t seem to get it back. Any relationship goes through good times and bad times.

During the bad times on partner may be disappointed about the marriage or even tired, trapped, depressed, powerless, or just let down. This partner may reach out for an unhealthy solution like having an affair with someone else, or other negative behaviors to feel better causing this once happy relationship to be damaged. The couples should instead deal with the problems together. Set new expectations for their relationship, enjoy doing activities with each other, discuss things more, and so on.

Problems with Compatibility: They say opposites attract but that is not always so. While it nice to have some unexpected moments because of your differences, but this sometimes can put a strain on a relationship.

Remember that relationships are about having your expectations met at least part of the time. So if there is too much drama, due to your differences, this can hurt your closeness in the relationship. This can make a person forget why they got with their partner in the first place, which leads to conflicts happening within the relationship.

Violence or Verbal Abuse: This can be one of the most serious problems a relationship can have. If one or both of the partner acts violently towards the other for any reason, this can have tragic result for the health of the relationship. Sometimes it is not physical violence but verbal abuse that happens. Either one of these can destroy all the love than once existed in a relationship. Counseling is usually needed to work through this type of behavior when the couple is willing. But sadly, many relationships end totally.

These are some important reasons why relationships fail. There are many more reasons that can be added to this list. If you think your relationship is in trouble you need to search out help to correct the problems. You can salvage relationships if you want to bad enough.