100 Questions Before Marriage Blog

Marriage is a huge commitment and many times people rush into without thinking. This decision should be made through a lot of thought and soul searching. Also you need to make sure you know your partner well enough to make the commitment in the first place.

Spend some time getting to know who the other one is. Participate in activities together. Meet each other’s friends and families. Have long talks with each other. Discuss job and personal goals so you know what each of you want in life.

There is so much information you should know before getting married. Too much to just accidently find it out about your partner. You will have to resort to asking questions to learn some of it. Asking these questions can be fun if you do it the right way.

Just throw a few questions in every so many minutes throughout your conversations. Make this flow natural in what you are talking about though. Then your partner will not feel put on the spot.

Come up with questions that give you the answers you need though. You don’t want frivolous fun questions here. The questions you want to ask get to the heart of who your partner is. Below are just some of the questions to ask your partner to see if he is the right marriage partner for you…

Questions to Ask Before Marriage:

1. Have you had a physical lately to make sure you are totally healthy? You may not think this is important but it is.

2. What do you think of prenuptial agreements? Are you for or against them?

3. Will you want to make a family with me after we have been married for a while? If so how many children would you like to have? These are two questions you need to be in sync with.

4. What is your financial situation at present? Where do you plan for it to be in 10 years? You need to know if your partner has any bad debts because you will be sharing in the problem after you are married.

5. Who do you think should handle the checkbook in our marriage? You could also add that you think it should be jointly handled so your partner knows your side of this.

6. Do you want to get a bigger place after we get married? This is especially important if your partner’s place and yours is small.

7. Do you feel comfortable sharing a closet with me? Some people have strange closet habits.

8. Will you feel comfortable with a large wedding ceremony and elaborate reception? Your partner may want a small affair while you want a big one, compromise is the key here.

9. You bed or mine, which one will we sleep in? The other can of course be kept in the guest room if you have one?

10. Do you snore, if so, how loud? You may have to buy some earplugs!

11. How do you physically make love? Sex is bound to come up sooner or later you might as well discuss it and see what the other one thinks about it.

12. Are you close with your family like I am with mine? (Or if you are estranged from your family, ask that instead of your partner.) You will need to know how much you will need to interact with each other’s family. That is part of marriage too.

13. Do you believe in us even cleaning the house together? The woman needs to know if the man is willing to do his part with the household chores.

14. Are you a heavy drinker, smoker, or drug user (prescription or illegal)? Hopefully your partner should be honest about this. You should have spent enough time together to know the answer to this question already though.

15. How deeply do you actually love me? Love is important, but even more important is the question, do you like me?

16. What do you like to do when you are not working? Do you like to be active or just stay home? These answers could be important to how you spend leisure time together.

See what important facts you can find out before you get married. Some of the answers to these questions could make you change your mind all together. Then again they could also reaffirm your decision to get marries is the right one. Surely you will find some other things you want to know to make questions on too.

Having a partner in life is a very intimate experience. You share your whole lives with them. Sometimes you have to ask each other questions to understand how the other one is thinking though.

This helps you strengthen you relationship most of the time.

Remember we are all human and sometimes the answers to certain questions  could bring out someone’s weaknesses as well as their strengths.  Let’s explore some of the questions that you could ask your partner.

Questions To Ask Your Partner:

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1. How important is intimacy to you in a relationship?
2. Have you had any other intimate-type relationships in your life?
3. Are you completely over all your other relationships that have broken up?
4. Have any of your relationships lasted a long time or have they all been short lived? If the later is true why do you think they did not last longer?
5. Do you see us having a future together?
6. Do you believe in marriage or does the idea of it scare you to death?
7. Have you had sex, or are you still, dare I say it, a virgin?
8. Do you think that in a relationship that you have to bare your whole soul to your partner, or is it okay to keep some things private?
9. Would you mind if you found out that I was more experienced at love than you are?
10. Are you a doer or just a thinker?

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11. Do you see marriage in our future? If so do you also see kids there?
12. Can I depend on you to take care of me even if I got seriously injured or ill?
13. If you designed a house how many rooms would it have and where would it be located?
14. What is the most adventurous activity you would like both of us to do together?
15. What is the most intimate activity other than sex would you want us to partake in?
16. Do you like thinking of your partner first, or do they have to bring their needs to your attention so how?
17. Are you a dog person or a cat person?
18. Do you believe in birth control or are you against it?
19. Would you like to have a lot of children or just one or two?
20. How would you show your love to me?

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21. Are you faithful to your partners or do you cheat and think it is okay?
22. Do you believe that couples need to spend a good deal of time doing things together?
23. Has your heart ever been broken to where it took a long time for it to mend.
24. Is going to the gym and working out fun for you or is it a chore?
25. How important is wealth in your life?
26. Do you have any health conditions that a partner should know about?
27. Do you have any certain foods that you cannot eat do to health conditions?
28. Do you like to do activities that make you think, or do you like the activities that you can just relax while doing them?
29. Is there anything that you have a phobia about?
30. Have you ever been in a major car accident? If so did you have a hard time driving?

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31. Are you shy or real outgoing?
32. Do you prefer living in the city, suburbs, or do you prefer the country?
33. Do you think that love at first sight actually exists?
34. If you had to plan a special date what would it include?
35. Do you consider relationships something you have to work at or should the just happen?
36. Are you a believer in the fact that love can go on forever even after one partner dies?
37. Do you think that a relationship is give and take on both parts or do you think it is all take and no give?
38. What is the true meaning of the word love for you?
39. Are you in love with me? If not are you at least “in like” with me?
40. Is it better to think with your brain, then act on your heartfelt feelings?
41. Are you a morally upstanding person or have you pulled a few shady deals in your day?
42. Do you like sharing intimate details about your past life?

These questions should give you some idea of what to ask your partner. These questions could give you some further knowledge of their personality. The better you get to know your partner the easier it is to get along with them and have a satisfying relationship.

For more questions to ask your partner, simply download your free copy of the 100 Questions Before Marriage sample eBook, or get the 1000 Questions For Couples by relationship expert Michael Webb.

Are you wondering how you get to know a guy? Most guys are not highly talkative right off the bat. Woman usually have to drag information out of them. Here are some “questions to ask a guy” though that may let you get to know them better.

Note: This post was inspired by one of our previous post: Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend

Questions To Ask A Guy:

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1. If you could be a car what make and model would you be?

2. What disaster would you save the world from if you were a superhero?

3. Would you love a woman even if she was not thin and hot looking?

4. Could you like a woman strictly for her brains, thoughts and feelings?

5. Which do you think is more devastating global warming or global cooling? (I think I would hate global cooling myself.)

6. If you wrote a book about your life how thick would it be?

7. If a movie was made about your life would it be a drama, comedy, tragedy, or a musical?

8. Do you have just male friends or do you have women that are your friends too?

9. What traumatic event in your life have you had to overcome if any?

10. What person that you have known played an integral part in shaping your personality and values?

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11. Do you surf the net for fun or educational purposes?

12. Are you one of the up and coming Web entrepreneurs?

13. Is money just a way to live for you or does it have a more serious value for you?

14. Are you so ambitious about having success that you will not let anyone stand in your way?

15. Do you think wealth and social standing say what type of man you are?

16. Does you temper ever get the best of you at the wrong times, or are you just a happy-go-lucky guy?

17. Do you like to stay up on the world situation or do you just want to hear the good news?

18. Could you lie to a loved one and it not bother you?

19. How large of a home theater setup do you dream about?

20. Is your idea of a perfect date a night on the town, or a quiet evening with dinner and a movie?

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21. If you were told by a doctor that you had 2 months to live, what things would you want to do in those months?

22. Do you have religious views on God?

23. When you sit down for a meal is it just meat and potatoes or do you like to spice your food up a bit more?

24. Are you an earlier riser on your days off or do you lounge in be for half the day?

25. Do you enjoy being outdoors as in going camping, hiking, or fishing?

26. Do you believe in hunting?

27. If you were to be in a band what genre of music would you be playing?

28. Are you a democrat, republican, or maybe an independent?

29. What are your religious affiliations?

30. If you were to write an ad on yourself what would your slogan be?

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31. If we fell in love would marriage be a consideration for you.

32. Would you like to have children one day?

33. When you travel do you like to do sightseeing, or do you just like to sit by a pool and read.

34. What are your aspirations for your life?

35. Do you have any long term financial goals?

36. What do you feel your weak points are?

37. What do you think your strong points are?

38. Do you have any traits in your personality that you would like to change?

39. What is the hardest decision you ever had to make been?

40. What do you think an idyllic life would be?

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41. Have you ever had an extremely embarrassing situation happen to you?

42. If you could go back in time and change a point in history, what would it be?

43. What country would you like to visit?

44. Is there anyone that does not like you that you know of? Why do they not like you?

45. Is there anyone who you consider to be a hero in your life?

46. Do you like sci-fi flicks or do you like other types of adventure flicks more?

47. Are you a sports addict, do you have to watch all the teams playing, not just your hometown?

48. Don’t you just love answering answering questions that people ask you, so they can get to know you?

49. What questions would you like to ask me to know me better?

50. What is your question to ask a guy?

Now you know a bit more of what to ask guys to get to know them better. You probably have some other questions of your own that you can come up with.

For more good and hard questions to ask a guy, download your copy of 1000 Questions For Couples by relationship  expert Michael Webb, or the 100 Questions Before Marriage sample eBook.