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A long distance love relationship can presents certain challenges. If you and your partner are willing to have patience and determination you can overcome these challenges. It takes more work to make one of these relationships work.

For one there has to be a higher level of trust earlier than in regular ones. You will drive yourself berserk if you don’t have this trust between you.

Paranoia will set in and you will not be able to get through a day without thinking your partner is cheating on you. When this happens you might as well kiss the relationship goodbye.

Some things you want to DO to make the long distance relationship work are:

• Keep your independence. Don’t just sit at home waiting for your partner to call. Live your life and you will have more to talk about when you are conversing with them.
• Communicate with each other as much as you possibly can. Through the use of computers and cell phones this is not a hard task today.
• Plan trips to get together with each other and catch up on what the other one has been doing. Maybe you can come up with a very special location that you will both enjoy. Something like going snow skiing.
• Go back to hand writing letters to each other. These are rare today with the use of email. In years to come these letters will become such special keepsakes.
• Make certain that you both agree about what would happen in the future if marriage happens. Who would be the one to move and change jobs? This is an important point to be in agreement with.

The list above of the things to DO will make the relationship work better. There are the things that will break a relationship though.

Below are some of the things NOT to do long distance relationship…

• Don’t become possessive or clingy with your partner. With so much distance between you this only adds unwarranted pressure to the relationship.
• Don’t pester your partner when you know that they could be working. At these times it is best to use email and then they can answer you at their convenience. Overly calling could be conceived as clingy as we mentioned above.
• Don’t accuse them of dating someone else when there is no proof just your paranoia. With men this will make them want to run and run fast. You will lose them. Women won’t like it either, believe me.
• Don’t play hard to get or any other games that you may do if the other one was close by. These games are not wise under any circumstance but had much worse affects on a long distance relationship.
• Try not to be down when the other one calls you. Stay in an uplifting mood. Remember they might be having a hard day with their problems or the fact that they are away from you.

So work together to stay positive with each other and your relationship will get stronger.  Remember that this could turn into a lifelong relationship. Share your lives the best you can and love will find a way through and over the distance that separates you.

Making a long distance relationship work takes a bit more work than a regular one does. For one thing you do not have as much one-on-one time to be reassured about how your partner feels about you.

You also are not sure when you will see each other again either. Your partner may not either communicate all their day-to-day activities for you to know what they are doing.

This all makes insecurity for one or both of you. So you have to be prepared for issues like this. Be truthful with yourself about how hard this might be for you to go through and talk to your partner about it. Examine what you need from the relationship too.

1 - If you are a needy person who needs the physical companionship often, this a long distance relationship may not be the one for you. Needy personality types do tend to get more insecure easier.

2 - Now if you are the independent type who likes some alone time, you could do quite well with a long distance relationship. So look inside yourself before agreeing to start a relationship of this kind.

3 - If you know you are going to be more suspicious, because your partner is not with you on a regular basis this could cause trouble.

4 - Also you may know you will just be too lonesome and sad without them close by and this too could be an issue.

You have to examine who you are and figure out what you want before trying out this kind of relationship. Once that is done, there are a few things you should and shouldn’t do to make the relationship strong.

1 - Do be independent and have a life of your own separate from your partner. This gives you more to share in conversations and e-mails with them. Your partner will be pleased that you are having a fulfilling life on your own without them. It actually takes some pressure off of them.

2 - Find fun ways to have dates even though you are far away from each other. Meet at one of the game sites and play cards or have webcam dinners together.

3 - Make time to go see your partner. A weekend trip will give you some special bonding moments. These moments can be simple or elaborate events.

4 - Don’t be insecure and overly clingy; remember it is hard for your partner to be away from you too. If you make this even more difficult by your actions they may change their mind on the relationship.

5 - Don’t let your mind run wild and start thinking that your partner is up to no good just because you can’t see them. Nothing will finish off a relationship faster than lack of trust.

6 - Don’t make you partner have a reason to mistrust you. Being apart is hard and they need to know you are loyal.

Hopefully through the information given here, you will know how to make a long distance relationship work. If you are willing to go for it you also now know what you should and should not do. This will enable you to have a strong relationship no matter how many miles part you are.

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When you and your lover are living miles apart, your hearts long for each other. You both are also constantly searching how to make your phone calls, e-mails, and other communications full of meaning and romance.

One way to keep things spiced up is with “long distance love poems“. These can be used to convey your feelings. Below are some ideas that may help you until you can write your own.

How Do I Love Thee?

[ad#blue-link-body-ad-on-left]How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.

I love thee to the depth and breadth and height

My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight

For the ends of being and ideal Grace.

I love thee to the level of everyday’s

Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.

I love thee freely, as men strive for right;

I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.

I love thee with the passion put to use

In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.

I love thee with a love I seemed to lose

With my lost saints,-I love thee with the breath,

Smiles, tears, of all my life!-and, if God choose,

I shall but love thee better after death. ~ Elizabeth Barrett Browning

Music, When Soft Voices Die

Music, when soft voices die,

Vibrates in the memory –

Odours, when sweet violets sicken,

Live within the sense they quicken.

Rose leaves, when the rose is dead,

Are heaped for the beloved’s bed;

And so thy thoughts, when thou art gone,

Love itself shall slumber on. ~ Percy Bysshe Shelley

She Walks In Beauty

She walks in beauty, like the night

Of cloudless climes and starry skies;

And all that’s best of dark and bright

Meet in her aspect and her eyes:

Thus mellowed to that tender light

Which heaven to gaudy day denies.

One shade the more, one ray the less,

Had half impaired the nameless grace

Which waves in every raven tress,

Or softly lightens o’er her face;

Where thoughts serenely sweet express

How pure, how dear their dwelling place.

And on that cheek, and o’er that brow,

So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,

The smiles that win, the tints that glow,

But tell of days in goodness spent,

A mind at peace with all below,

A heart whose love is innocent! ~ Lord Byron

Love’s Philosophy

The fountains mingle with the river

And the rivers with the ocean,

The winds of Heaven mix for ever

With a sweet emotion;

Nothing in the world is single,

All things by a law divine

In one spirit meet and mingle -

Why not I with thine?

See the mountains kiss high heaven

And the waves clasp one another;

No sister-flower would be forgiven

If it disdained its brother;

And the sunlight clasps the earth,

And the moonbeams kiss the sea -

What are all these kissings worth

If thou kiss not me? ~ Percy Bysshe Shelley

How Far We Are!

How far we are from each other,

makes me have a heavy heart.

I don’t ever mean to smother,

I just don’t want to be apart. ~ Unknown Author

We Have a Sea

We have a sea between us,

but our love is side by side.

There is no need for a fuss,

cause you’ll come with the tide. ~ Unknown Author