100 Questions Before Marriage Blog

Are you in a relationship that is on shaky ground? Do you want to know how to save it before it ends? If you do then you need to learn what to do. Things can be done to put the relationship back on solid ground, but it will take some work.

If you made your partner mad then they may need a bit a time to calm down. Once they have done this, talk to them and see what happened that made them so mad. Tell them you are sorry and that it won’t happen again. Ask them what was that one thing that was said or done. If it was something stupid or callous that you did.

Now it might be that things are strained between both of you for no specific reason that can be named. This needs to be talked about too. Your partner could just be restless or bored. Maybe there is a way to spice your relationship back up. A two-day trip off away from everyone might be enough to spark the relationship up again.

Your partner may say it is something about your attitude. If they do say this, then listen to them without arguing. Do they say you are being too high minded for an example? If you are being this way you may need to get over yourself and try to see things from your partner’s point of view. Maybe you are just trying to be in charge too much and should learn how to let your partner run the show more often.

Remember that a relationship needs to be a partnership not a dictatorship. Both of you should have equal say in all things. When this balance gets tipped to one side or the other, the relationship can get a bit shaky.

Another reason for a relationship getting on the rocky side is what they call “empty nest syndrome”. This is when you have both been raising your children and suddenly they are gone to college or have gotten married. While you were busy with the kids you forgot to do coupling, and now you have to get to know each other again.

You may have to spend some time discussing what you now want to do with your lives now that you don’t have the kids to tie you down at home. This can put your relationship back on firm ground again.

As you can see here there are many reasons for a relationship to get shaky. Some of the reasons might be insurmountable like if you or your partner cheated on the other one. But most of the reasons with a little bit of effort can be worked on and the relationship can even be made stronger.

See you don’t have to just let a relationship go. With a bit of thought and effort you can save and keep the relationship going on for many more years. Now isn’t that why you entered into this relationship after all? Wouldn’t you go through life with a partner than alone? Most people like having someone to share things with. So talk things over and try to work things out before you just say goodbye. You will see that you probably can make your relationship solid again.

Making a long distance relationship work takes a bit more work than a regular one does. For one thing you do not have as much one-on-one time to be reassured about how your partner feels about you.

You also are not sure when you will see each other again either. Your partner may not either communicate all their day-to-day activities for you to know what they are doing.

This all makes insecurity for one or both of you. So you have to be prepared for issues like this. Be truthful with yourself about how hard this might be for you to go through and talk to your partner about it. Examine what you need from the relationship too.

1 - If you are a needy person who needs the physical companionship often, this a long distance relationship may not be the one for you. Needy personality types do tend to get more insecure easier.

2 - Now if you are the independent type who likes some alone time, you could do quite well with a long distance relationship. So look inside yourself before agreeing to start a relationship of this kind.

3 - If you know you are going to be more suspicious, because your partner is not with you on a regular basis this could cause trouble.

4 - Also you may know you will just be too lonesome and sad without them close by and this too could be an issue.

You have to examine who you are and figure out what you want before trying out this kind of relationship. Once that is done, there are a few things you should and shouldn’t do to make the relationship strong.

1 - Do be independent and have a life of your own separate from your partner. This gives you more to share in conversations and e-mails with them. Your partner will be pleased that you are having a fulfilling life on your own without them. It actually takes some pressure off of them.

2 - Find fun ways to have dates even though you are far away from each other. Meet at one of the game sites and play cards or have webcam dinners together.

3 - Make time to go see your partner. A weekend trip will give you some special bonding moments. These moments can be simple or elaborate events.

4 - Don’t be insecure and overly clingy; remember it is hard for your partner to be away from you too. If you make this even more difficult by your actions they may change their mind on the relationship.

5 - Don’t let your mind run wild and start thinking that your partner is up to no good just because you can’t see them. Nothing will finish off a relationship faster than lack of trust.

6 - Don’t make you partner have a reason to mistrust you. Being apart is hard and they need to know you are loyal.

Hopefully through the information given here, you will know how to make a long distance relationship work. If you are willing to go for it you also now know what you should and should not do. This will enable you to have a strong relationship no matter how many miles part you are.

When you have been in a relationship with a person for awhile, it can be hard to end it. Certain things can just happen to cause you to know it is time to call it quits.

But how do you end a relationship the right way? You don’t want to hurt the other person any more than necessary.

Remember hearts are involved here! Here are some steps to go through to end the relationship with as little pain as possible.

First, you need to know why you are breaking up with the person so you can explain it to them. So do some soul searching, while you are alone to realize the full truth of the matter. Once you know the truth for yourself, it is easy to be honest with your partner.

Second, you will need to make some kind of date for talking. Let your partner know that this is to discuss things. This way they won’t think it is a romantic date. Breaking up is best done in person. Only breakup over the phone if you have a long distance relationship. Don’t put this off, either.

Third, for this discussion get yourself in a compassionate mood. You do not want to hurt your partner’s feelings and if you can, be in a compassionate state of mind. You might need to help them accept the idea of the breakup for them to heal.

Fourth, now that you have gotten together and are talking, stay focused. You need to explain your reasons respectfully and clearly to your partner for the breakup. Below are a few suggestions to help you explain yourself:

• While you are explaining talk about how you feel about things. This will not put your partner into defensive mode. Take the blame for the breakup, that it is all your fault not theirs.
• Mention the things that have been good about the relationship and what you have learned. State that you will always to thankful for it.
• Make to be sincere in what you are saying. Your partner can see through it if you aren’t.

Fifth, your partner may get very upset and emotional over what you are saying. You may need to be a shoulder to lean on to get them through this. Make sure to be calm throughout everything.

Sixth, if your partner blows a fuse and lashes out at you, don’t take it to heart. They have a right to be upset remember. Some people can get completely irrational so be braced for this to happen.

Seventh, still think kindly on them. You cared for them once very deeply. There is no reason that you can’t still be friends.

Eighth, clearly show your emotions. Should you want to cry do.

Ninth, you may need to setup another date to talk with your partner again. They may not get the gist of the breakup the first time you talk about it.

Tenth, you need to be for them if they need you to be. However, they may want a lot of space instead.

Eleventh, don’t feel guilty for wanting to breakup. You have to put the guilt on over hurting your partner’s feelings. That is the only way you can move on.