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Young love can be fun, exciting and even a bit confusing. It can be a little scary when you are trying to tell the girl of your dreams that you like her. You’ve been catching yourself staring in her direction, admiring her pretty hair and listening to her laugh when she talks to her friends. But you can’t seem to wonder… Will she like me? And how to to get her to like me if I am in middle school?

First, get to know her:

Girls can be hard to understand. It’s also hard to understand the type of boys that a girl likes. Some like the cute and athletic type. Others like the mysterious rocker guys. Then there are the shy ones, nerdy ones, jokers, bad boys and the players. A good way to find out what kind of guy that your dream girl is into, is to talk to her friends. One thing that you should always keep in mind, is to stay true to yourself, and never be someone who you aren’t. If you find yourself pretending to be someone that isn’t you, then the girl may end up not liking you at all.

When you talk to your crush’s friends, find out about what types of activities that she likes. Does she like to go bike riding? Is she an animal lover? What are her hobbies? Once you find out what types of activities she likes to do, you can invite her to do something with you. You can ask her to go on a bike ride to the park, or to a nearby petting zoo. If you take interest in the things that she likes to do, she might start looking in your direction more often too.

Next, get attention:

If you are trying to get a girl’s attention in middle school, practice good hygiene. Girls don’t like the boys who sit in the corner and stink. They also don’t like sweat and dirty hands. Girls often find these characteristics appalling and disgusting. Be sure that you wash and comb your hair nicely every day, brush your teeth and wear clean clothes. There is nothing more distracting that wrinkly dirty clothes that stink along with smelly breath. This will definitely turn any girl away.

Start being friends with her:

Also, you might try being friends with that special girl that you like. Offer to sit next to her at lunch one day. Start out talking slow. Begin with something about lunch or what they are serving. Then ask her about class or what her favorite subject is in. If you really want to get a conversation going, tell her about a subject that you are having trouble in. See if she will help you understand it better. Ask her if she could come over after school to help you and invite her over for a snack.

Careful on what you say:

If you like a girl, never make fun and laugh at her. This is the worst thing that you can do to any kid. If you find someone who is making fun of her or if she seems uncomfortable, rescue her by telling the other person to back off or say something good about her. This will make your dream girl have more respect for you. When there is a day that you think that she looks really pretty, tell her so. If other girls are telling her that they do not like her outfit, jump in and tell them that “you don’t care if they do not like her outfit, because you think it looks nice. Young girls like to be complimented and told that they look pretty.

Continue a close relationship:

While you find that you like this girl a lot, remember not to be too clingy. You don’t want to seem desperate. Allow her to spend time with her friends. Talk to her a few different times throughout the week just to let her know that you want to be her friend. As she gets to know you, your friendship might turn into something more. It’s always best to take a new friendship slow. If another guy seems to be invading your game, remember to play it cool. No girl wants a guy who seems desperate or over-protective. Just be yourself and remember to always be nice to her. Once a friendship has bloomed among the two of you, you can begin to let your dream girl know that you like her. If you have been nice to her and have stayed true to yourself, you can find out if she likes you too.

Conclusion:

Don’t ever be too scared to approach girls. They can be just as nervous as you. And if for some reason she doesn’t like you in the same way, at least you have made a great friend in the process. Although, if it does turn out, and she wants to be your girlfriend, you can begin to have fun doing all of the things that you enjoy doing together. Always stay true to yourself, no matter what the situation-because she picked you for who you are.

Have you ever tried to put your best foot forward when asking a girl out on a date, only to have her turn you down flat? You thought you did everything exactly right, and she said no. If you had to all over again, what would you do differently? Here are some hints, so you can have better luck next time!

How to ask a girl out

Dress for Success: Clothes make the man, as they say. It’s not just the clothes, either. You start from the inside out.

1.      Posture: Head up, shoulders back, chest out, stomach in. Look people in the eye, and smile.

2.      Hygiene: Clean from head to toe. Tweeze whatever needs tweezing. Be careful with soaps and colognes, some girls are allergic. Check with a family member if you honestly don’t know how much is too much. Cologne is meant to enhance, not stand alone.

3.      Clothing: ‘Clean and unwrinkled’ is all that matters. Dress appropriately for wherever you’re headed.

4.      Attitude: If you’re in a bad mood, you have two choices. Get over it, or wait for another day. Nobody is going to want to date you if you’re in a lousy mood.

5.      If you’re hungry, eat: You won’t be at your best if you’re hungry. Grab a bite, then brush, floss, and mouthwash before heading out the door.

You’re going to want to be in a really good mood when you approach her. Be willing to be silly, fun, funny; in short, somebody she would only want to spend more time with.

Timing is Everything

Don’t ask her out unless and until you’ve determined there are some vibes floating between the two of you. Chemistry is everything. You thinking she’s cute isn’t going to carry any weight. Everybody thinks she’s cute, you’re not special on that front. Just chat! Have fun, get to know each other. If she wants you to ask her out, she’ll start sending flirty messages, i.e., licking her lips and looking at yours. Playing with her hair. Touching you. Now you’re ready to ask her out.

Getting to Know You, Getting to Know All About You

It’s the easiest thing in the world to say “So, what are you up to?” She may give you a noncommittal answer, like “Not much. You?” If she does that, keep talking. She’s cautious, but she hasn’t fled the building. Make a light joke, see if you can get some banter going. Allude to an interest, such as music or movies. If she remains silent, it may not be about you. You may have just picked a wrong time, and she has a lot on her mind. Don’t personalize it.

If you two do hit it off, you’re ready to ask her out.

A-B-C-, Easy as 1-2-3

The sparks are flying, so what do you do now? Watch for the right moment. Remain casual. When a shared interest comes up, roll with it. Say you’re talking about music, and you like the same group. A local band will be performing, and they remind you of the group you both like. Play it cool. “Hey, don’t know if you know – have you ever heard of the Such -n- So’s? No? Well, they’re trying to hit it big. They’re really good, and they’re playing at My Alibi Friday night. That place is a blast, you should come!”

See how you didn’t ask a question? You made it hard for her to say no. Don’t leave her an out. Do not say “Are you busy” or “If you’re not busy” or “Are you/Would you be interested”. Just make an opening for her to walk through, and make it clear she will be very happy she did.

The Specifics

Since it’s a first date, see how she wants to proceed. A simple “Would you like me to pick you up?” should cover it. Set a time, and exchange numbers. Call the day before to make sure everything is well and to let her know you’re looking forward to seeing her again.

The Date

Repeat “Dress for Success”. Be as punctual as possible. A few minutes early is okay. No more than five. However, if you are running late, call and tell her immediately. Do not leave her hanging. It’s a sign of disrespect. If you want the date to go anywhere, you need to show her that in your estimation, she matters.

Are you tired of doing things alone? Do you dream of a girlfriend to share your likes and dislikes with? It is quite normal for men and women to want a partner to live their lives with even on a short term basis, as relationships are sometimes. However, it can be confusing and not easy to learn how to get a girlfriend though,  especially in middle school or high school.

You might have had many one-date girlfriends, who just did not seem to like you enough to go out with you again. This can hurt when it happens.

In this case you need to be careful when you first are dating a girl to make the right impression. Also you need to know comfortable ways to how to meet girls too. This article will give you fast tips, steps or advice on how you can both. Even if you had a girlfriend and want to learn how to get her back after a breakup.

How to Get a Girlfriend:

• Participate in life. This makes you an interesting person. Gives you things to talk about in a conversation. The only way to attract a girl is to know how to converse with her on various topics. No girl likes a guy that is boring and does not talk at all. So if you have limited exposure to people and experiences broaden your world. This will make you a more interesting guy. You will see that girls will start being more interested in you.

• Have some sort of idea of what personality you are looking for in a girl. This will help you in your search for a girlfriend. You could also think about what qualities you do not want in a girlfriend. Just remember that if you are too picky, you will narrow your choices down maybe too far.

• Be open to all sorts of shapes and sizes of women. Just because a girl may have a few extra pounds on her does not mean that her personality might not be good. She could be the exact person you need in your life. On the other hand you may not get what you bargain for with a girl that has the gorgeous body. She may have a witchy personality. So go after a girl only when you know her personality as well as her looks.

• Do not act like someone you are not. Be honest about who you are. If you don’t have money don’t act like you have it, even if you are broke be honest. This could come back to haunt you later otherwise.

• Don’t compare one girlfriend to another one verbally. This will not go over well. In fact, do not even mention any other women you are dating or have dated. This will make the present girl feel not as important. You can ask the girl you are with if she is dating anyone else or if she believes in only dating one person at a time. This gently opens the door to a conversation on this topic. If  she only dates one guy at a time you will know that you need to only date her to keep her. This you will have to decide for yourself, but it is easier to build a relationship when you are only dating one person at a time.

• Take time to get the activities the girl likes to do. It should not matter to you if you have to watch a chick flick now and again. This will please her and that is another part of having a girlfriend. So what if you are a big macho man? Show your girlfriend that you can share in what she likes. Take her to her favorite restaurant or event.

• Find a nice way to come on to a girl if you are trying to be noticed. Don’t use some cheap pickup line. Complement the color of her dress and ask what the name of the color is or who designed the dress. Something different from what the other guys would use. This will get you noticed.

• Don’t be too bold but at the same if you are too shy you may never ask the girl out for a date. Then you can’t even start a relationship. So be confident when you approach a girl to ask her out.

By using the tips above you should find easier ways on “how to get a girlfriend” and to keep her. Another thing you can do is talk to female relatives and friends about what they like in a boyfriend. This can give you even more ideas besides the ones listed here. Good luck in your quest of having a girlfriend and may you find and keep the right girl for you.