How To Ask A Girl Out
Have you ever tried to put your best foot forward when asking a girl out on a date, only to have her turn you down flat? You thought you did everything exactly right, and she said no. If you had to all over again, what would you do differently? Here are some hints, so you can have better luck next time!
How to ask a girl out
Dress for Success: Clothes make the man, as they say. It’s not just the clothes, either. You start from the inside out.
1. Posture: Head up, shoulders back, chest out, stomach in. Look people in the eye, and smile.
2. Hygiene: Clean from head to toe. Tweeze whatever needs tweezing. Be careful with soaps and colognes, some girls are allergic. Check with a family member if you honestly don’t know how much is too much. Cologne is meant to enhance, not stand alone.
3. Clothing: ‘Clean and unwrinkled’ is all that matters. Dress appropriately for wherever you’re headed.
4. Attitude: If you’re in a bad mood, you have two choices. Get over it, or wait for another day. Nobody is going to want to date you if you’re in a lousy mood.
5. If you’re hungry, eat: You won’t be at your best if you’re hungry. Grab a bite, then brush, floss, and mouthwash before heading out the door.
You’re going to want to be in a really good mood when you approach her. Be willing to be silly, fun, funny; in short, somebody she would only want to spend more time with.
Timing is Everything
Don’t ask her out unless and until you’ve determined there are some vibes floating between the two of you. Chemistry is everything. You thinking she’s cute isn’t going to carry any weight. Everybody thinks she’s cute, you’re not special on that front. Just chat! Have fun, get to know each other. If she wants you to ask her out, she’ll start sending flirty messages, i.e., licking her lips and looking at yours. Playing with her hair. Touching you. Now you’re ready to ask her out.
Getting to Know You, Getting to Know All About You
It’s the easiest thing in the world to say “So, what are you up to?” She may give you a noncommittal answer, like “Not much. You?” If she does that, keep talking. She’s cautious, but she hasn’t fled the building. Make a light joke, see if you can get some banter going. Allude to an interest, such as music or movies. If she remains silent, it may not be about you. You may have just picked a wrong time, and she has a lot on her mind. Don’t personalize it.
If you two do hit it off, you’re ready to ask her out.
A-B-C-, Easy as 1-2-3
The sparks are flying, so what do you do now? Watch for the right moment. Remain casual. When a shared interest comes up, roll with it. Say you’re talking about music, and you like the same group. A local band will be performing, and they remind you of the group you both like. Play it cool. “Hey, don’t know if you know – have you ever heard of the Such -n- So’s? No? Well, they’re trying to hit it big. They’re really good, and they’re playing at My Alibi Friday night. That place is a blast, you should come!”
See how you didn’t ask a question? You made it hard for her to say no. Don’t leave her an out. Do not say “Are you busy” or “If you’re not busy” or “Are you/Would you be interested”. Just make an opening for her to walk through, and make it clear she will be very happy she did.
Since it’s a first date, see how she wants to proceed. A simple “Would you like me to pick you up?” should cover it. Set a time, and exchange numbers. Call the day before to make sure everything is well and to let her know you’re looking forward to seeing her again.
Repeat “Dress for Success”. Be as punctual as possible. A few minutes early is okay. No more than five. However, if you are running late, call and tell her immediately. Do not leave her hanging. It’s a sign of disrespect. If you want the date to go anywhere, you need to show her that in your estimation, she matters.