First, get to know her:

Girls can be hard to understand. It’s also hard to understand the type of boys that a girl likes. Some like the cute and athletic type. Others like the mysterious rocker guys. Then there are the shy ones, nerdy ones, jokers, bad boys and the players. A good way to find out what kind of guy that your dream girl is into, is to talk to her friends. One thing that you should always keep in mind, is to stay true to yourself, and never be someone who you aren’t. If you find yourself pretending to be someone that isn’t you, then the girl may end up not liking you at all.

When you talk to your crush’s friends, find out about what types of activities that she likes. Does she like to go bike riding? Is she an animal lover? What are her hobbies? Once you find out what types of activities she likes to do, you can invite her to do something with you. You can ask her to go on a bike ride to the park, or to a nearby petting zoo. If you take interest in the things that she likes to do, she might start looking in your direction more often too.

Next, get attention:

If you are trying to get a girl’s attention in middle school, practice good hygiene. Girls don’t like the boys who sit in the corner and stink. They also don’t like sweat and dirty hands. Girls often find these characteristics appalling and disgusting. Be sure that you wash and comb your hair nicely every day, brush your teeth and wear clean clothes. There is nothing more distracting that wrinkly dirty clothes that stink along with smelly breath. This will definitely turn any girl away.

Start being friends with her:

Also, you might try being friends with that special girl that you like. Offer to sit next to her at lunch one day. Start out talking slow. Begin with something about lunch or what they are serving. Then ask her about class or what her favorite subject is in. If you really want to get a conversation going, tell her about a subject that you are having trouble in. See if she will help you understand it better. Ask her if she could come over after school to help you and invite her over for a snack.

Careful on what you say:

If you like a girl, never make fun and laugh at her. This is the worst thing that you can do to any kid. If you find someone who is making fun of her or if she seems uncomfortable, rescue her by telling the other person to back off or say something good about her. This will make your dream girl have more respect for you. When there is a day that you think that she looks really pretty, tell her so. If other girls are telling her that they do not like her outfit, jump in and tell them that “you don’t care if they do not like her outfit, because you think it looks nice. Young girls like to be complimented and told that they look pretty.

Continue a close relationship:

While you find that you like this girl a lot, remember not to be too clingy. You don’t want to seem desperate. Allow her to spend time with her friends. Talk to her a few different times throughout the week just to let her know that you want to be her friend. As she gets to know you, your friendship might turn into something more. It’s always best to take a new friendship slow. If another guy seems to be invading your game, remember to play it cool. No girl wants a guy who seems desperate or over-protective. Just be yourself and remember to always be nice to her. Once a friendship has bloomed among the two of you, you can begin to let your dream girl know that you like her. If you have been nice to her and have stayed true to yourself, you can find out if she likes you too.

Conclusion:

Don’t ever be too scared to approach girls. They can be just as nervous as you. And if for some reason she doesn’t like you in the same way, at least you have made a great friend in the process. Although, if it does turn out, and she wants to be your girlfriend, you can begin to have fun doing all of the things that you enjoy doing together. Always stay true to yourself, no matter what the situation-because she picked you for who you are.

How to ask a girl out

Dress for Success: Clothes make the man, as they say. It’s not just the clothes, either. You start from the inside out.

1.      Posture: Head up, shoulders back, chest out, stomach in. Look people in the eye, and smile.

2.      Hygiene: Clean from head to toe. Tweeze whatever needs tweezing. Be careful with soaps and colognes, some girls are allergic. Check with a family member if you honestly don’t know how much is too much. Cologne is meant to enhance, not stand alone.

3.      Clothing: ‘Clean and unwrinkled’ is all that matters. Dress appropriately for wherever you’re headed.

4.      Attitude: If you’re in a bad mood, you have two choices. Get over it, or wait for another day. Nobody is going to want to date you if you’re in a lousy mood.

5.      If you’re hungry, eat: You won’t be at your best if you’re hungry. Grab a bite, then brush, floss, and mouthwash before heading out the door.

You’re going to want to be in a really good mood when you approach her. Be willing to be silly, fun, funny; in short, somebody she would only want to spend more time with.

Timing is Everything

Don’t ask her out unless and until you’ve determined there are some vibes floating between the two of you. Chemistry is everything. You thinking she’s cute isn’t going to carry any weight. Everybody thinks she’s cute, you’re not special on that front. Just chat! Have fun, get to know each other. If she wants you to ask her out, she’ll start sending flirty messages, i.e., licking her lips and looking at yours. Playing with her hair. Touching you. Now you’re ready to ask her out.

Getting to Know You, Getting to Know All About You

It’s the easiest thing in the world to say “So, what are you up to?” She may give you a noncommittal answer, like “Not much. You?” If she does that, keep talking. She’s cautious, but she hasn’t fled the building. Make a light joke, see if you can get some banter going. Allude to an interest, such as music or movies. If she remains silent, it may not be about you. You may have just picked a wrong time, and she has a lot on her mind. Don’t personalize it.

If you two do hit it off, you’re ready to ask her out.

A-B-C-, Easy as 1-2-3

The sparks are flying, so what do you do now? Watch for the right moment. Remain casual. When a shared interest comes up, roll with it. Say you’re talking about music, and you like the same group. A local band will be performing, and they remind you of the group you both like. Play it cool. “Hey, don’t know if you know – have you ever heard of the Such -n- So’s? No? Well, they’re trying to hit it big. They’re really good, and they’re playing at My Alibi Friday night. That place is a blast, you should come!”

See how you didn’t ask a question? You made it hard for her to say no. Don’t leave her an out. Do not say “Are you busy” or “If you’re not busy” or “Are you/Would you be interested”. Just make an opening for her to walk through, and make it clear she will be very happy she did.

The Specifics

Since it’s a first date, see how she wants to proceed. A simple “Would you like me to pick you up?” should cover it. Set a time, and exchange numbers. Call the day before to make sure everything is well and to let her know you’re looking forward to seeing her again.

The Date

Repeat “Dress for Success”. Be as punctual as possible. A few minutes early is okay. No more than five. However, if you are running late, call and tell her immediately. Do not leave her hanging. It’s a sign of disrespect. If you want the date to go anywhere, you need to show her that in your estimation, she matters.

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You’re going to want to grab a pen and paper. Write down the reason(s) she gave, leaving space in between to refute her claims. If you weren’t given a chance to defend yourself, this is going to be somewhat cathartic. Here are some examples.

1. “You never listen to me” Admit it. Yes, you read that right. Women don’t generally operate in a vacuum, and men frequently run on autopilot. You will not only need to be aware of what happened, but be willing to learn how to listen, as opposed to just hearing.
2. “You always take me for granted” Probable. People get comfortable with each other. Was it a two-way street? Did both of you stop presenting your best side? Remember, this is just an exercise to check yourself, in the hopes of getting her back. Now is not the time to tell her that in your estimation, you’re both guilty of that behavior. You lost your chance to comment on that when you didn’t bring it up while you two were a couple.
3. “You’re boring” AKA: “We never go out and have fun anymore” What’s changed? First, make sure she’s not just slinging accusations. If it is in fact true that you used to have an active social life, and now you don’t, why not? If you are serious about getting your girlfriend back, then you need to be willing to make some major changes. If you just rolled your eyes at me, then you don’t belong with her.

Once you’ve done all your paperwork, think about it. There’s really no rush to getting her back. It is going to be much more important to her that you heard her, understood her, agreed with her, and have indicated you feel she’s worth changing for. To quote Melvin Udall in “As Good as it Gets”, she makes you want to be a better man.

Now we’re ready for the specifics. Those notes you took are going to be a very important part of winning your girlfriend back. Keeping in mind that honesty is your best policy, write your love a letter. An actual, pen-to-paper apology for any wrong you know you did her. However, if you cheated on her or lifted an unkind hand to her, I am going to strongly suggest that you stop what you’re doing right now and seek help. Even if she were to forgive you, that’s no way for a man to live his life.

Because pen-to-paper is so permanent, I would suggest that you create your letter on the computer. This will give you the freedom to rearrange and correct to your heart’s content. Pick up some stationary paper (lined, if you need them) and write it out.

The logic behind this is two-fold. First, you may very well be the first man in her life to take the time and make the effort to circumvent technology in her honor. Second, it puts a piece of your heart in her hands. It’s a gift. She can see your thoughts in your handwriting, held in her own two hands. TIP: spritz her favorite cologne of yours in the air, and run the paper through it. That will add another layer of memory to your creation.

If you’re not sure what to write, here are some tips.

1. Salutation Your pet name for her. If that doesn’t feel serious enough, I’d recommend going with “My Dearest”, followed by her name.
2. Understanding Make it clear that you heard her. Mirror it back to her, and here is the important part. No recriminations, no excuses. No blaming her for your bad behavior. You will have to completely “man up” and own your own.
3. Beseech Ask for another chance. Tell her you have thought long and hard, and you hope she will give you a chance to win her back. This is not going to be picking up where you left off. This is just an opportunity, and make this clear to her; you just want a chance to win her all over again.
4. Hopes Let her know that if the answer is no, you will always think kindly of her. If she needs a friend, you’ll be there. She is without a doubt one of the most amazing women you’ve ever met, and you wish her nothing but the best from this point forward.

In closing, sign your name. Next, hold the letter for two days. Read it through, and if you have any changes to make, do so. Then seal it up and send it off.

The next part will be the most difficult. Leave her be. Don’t call, write, email, text, nothing. She may very well call you within a day or two of receiving the letter. But if she doesn’t, she’s thinking. So give her a month. Yes, thirty days. At that point, you’re probably going to want to ask yourself if you really want to pursue a woman who could ignore a heartfelt plea like the one you sent. But if your feelings remain strong, then go ahead and give her a call.

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So this also means you might not feel to good about it. Trust me, I KNOW. I know what it is to feel emotionally sick after such an event. But cheer up, this is part of life. There is an old saying that says “what ever doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger”, and this type of experience will make you much stronger. The good part is that this experience will serve you for the rest of your life because you are going to learn something from it and this is what ‘s important and permanent.

Please feel free to read the following post that was made just for you on learning “how to get your ex back”. And no this is not one of the many mediocre post you see on the internet that have no substance at all in trying to solve your serious problem with silly information.

How to Get Your Ex Back

Fist and foremost, breakups are not uncommon in our world. As a matter of fact, people have been breaking up since the beginning of time for many reasons. Only in very rare cases it can result impossible to get your ex back. However, it is extremely rare. You would have to have done something extremely horrible in order to make your ex not want you back. Fortunately, in most cases, it is quite possible to make your ex start over with you once again in the relationship.

Below are a couple of steps, pointers, tips, suggestions and ideas that will provide you with free advice and help you determine what is the best and fastest way for you to get your ex back once again.

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Steps

1) First, Know and Understand The Reason

- You might want to consider why you are breaking up because it could be that there is either a misunderstanding, or your ex has a very good reason for breaking up that he should let you know about.

This is the most important fact you should have because it can allow you learn what is the cause of the break up and allow you to try and fix or improve that which was not working while you where in the relationship.

If you are able to talk about it and fix problem in a conversation, then you just got your ex back in the very first step! Remember that the most important thing in any relationship is communication. But if it does not solve the problem, then it is time to move on, for now.

2) Respectfully Agree…

– If your ex gave you a good reason for the break up, and continues to tell you that the relationship should end even after speaking about the problem, then the best thing to do is to agree.

To be in a relationship, two people need to be willing to commit to each other. But if there is only one, then the relationship is going be left handicap.

Just remember what Aristotle said: “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies“, but if there is only one soul involved, then we cannot force them to be one with us.

We humans have the free will to choose and make our decisions. So if this is the decision that your ex has made, let it be. Worse will be forcing them to do something they do not want to do.

But don’t think that this will end here because life is full of surprises. Just demonstrate to your ex that you are a mature and strong person. This alone should show a part of you that should leave them impressed.

3) Continue Moving on With Your Life

– Although you may not feel like it, going on with your life is the best possible thing you can do at this point. Simply continue moving forward with your day-to-day routine and don’t let your emotions get the best of you. They’ll wonder why you haven’t broken down.

Try to be involved in anything that can distract you from thinking about your ex. This can be sports, activities, events, video games, etc.

Try to avoid anything that can remind you of your ex. Like romantic music, literature, photos, places, etc.

It’s not worth it to go through more emotional pain then the amount you have been through already. Just try to keep your mind away from your ex and you will see how it would be much easier to approach them when it is appropriate to do so.

4) Change Your Look

– You may not think so, but when you reinvent yourself, you reinvent your life, thus attracting more positive energies your way. When you’re depressed, it may not show, but people can sense it. When you’re happy, it continues to come back to you and you’ll attract those same feelings from others.

5) Know When to Approach

- You will know sooner or later the correct moment when to approach your ex. This depends on your situation and the reason for the break up. But you can know when it is time by remembering the “Side effects of a Break Up” and taking advantage of them.

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The Side Effects of a Break Up

The “You don’t know what you have till you lose it” Effect

Everyone goes through this in a break up and so will your ex. This is when you start to realize how much your ex actually meant for you when you’re no longer have them.

It’s a type of paradox. When you have something, you don’t value it. When you no longer have that something, you do value it.

When this occurs your ex starts to value you more now then the time you where in a relationship with him/her. This is a good opportunity to start an indirect conversation that might get your ex interested in starting the relationship again.

The “What if?” Effect

This is when you start thinking about “what if” we still were together or “what if” things worked out. You and your ex will most likely have this in mind.

It is like having second thoughts about the relationship and could be a good situation to begin a conversation about starting from scratch with your ex.

The “I Miss You” Effect

Well, this ones easy. We normally get use to being around something or someone so much that we start to miss them when they are not around. Another great opportunity.

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Get Your Ex Back

This is the final step and it is the most crucial because it is when you will make the attempt to get your ex back using the appropriate moment and circumstances, along with the above tips.

It is best to be yourself and try to remember the positive sides of your ex relationship. This way you can try to magnify those moments of happiness once again and reignite the fire that was once their. However, only you know your ex well. So this part depends mostly on yourself and how you will approach.

But due to the reason that there could be so many cases and so many different situations in a break up, below are some additional free tips and advice that can help you in getting your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back. You can also read our post on each: How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back and How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back.

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Other Helpful Tips

The above advice is for everyone in a general sense but you can see below if any of the following tips can help you in your situation as well:

No Stalking

– It’s okay if you two have the same friends, hang-out’s, etc., but at least try to distance yourself from your ex for a while. Have confidence that they will make their way back to you. Stalking is a huge turn-off and creates negativity. It’s best not to ask your friends about your ex. Have faith that they will contact you and find you when the time is right.

Don’t Ask Your Ex To Come Back

– After you’ve accepted (whether you’ve really accepted it or not), act like you’re fine with it. Begging or simply suggesting that getting back together is a horrible idea. Doing so will only push your ex away. If you’ve already begged, there is no need to worry. The best thing you can do right now is simply put an end to it and pretend that you’re going on with your life.

Don’t Ask Questions About The Breakup

– After breaking up with your ex, the worst thing you can do is ask why. Most of the time, the reason is clear. What’s done is done and it’s best to simply accept what has happened and let time run it’s course. Your wounds will heal, and it’s also a great way to get your ex back.

Let Your Ex Come To You

– Once you’ve let your ex know that you’re okay with the breakup and let them know that you’ll always be their friend, leave it at that. Your ex may not contact you for a while, especially if they start dating other people, but trust that they will. Let your ex come to you. It will give you the upper hand.

Date Other People

– You don’t necessarily have to get into another relationship, but at least going out with individuals of the opposite sex is highly recommended. You’ll need to strike a bond with others to help deal with some of the negative emotions that might come your way. It helps with the healing process, and besides, it makes you look like you’re doing just fine without your ex.

Don’t “Wait” on Your Ex to Come Back

– If your mind is programmed as if you are “waiting” on your ex to come back, then they may never make it back into your life. You have to do things that make you happy in the meantime. Go back to school, get a gym membership, and change some things about yourself that you’ve been unhappy with. Get busy doing things that interest you, that way, when you do get back together with your ex, you’ll have it all together and if it’s meant to be, it will last.

Tell Your Ex That You’ll Always Be Their “Friend”

- Letting your ex know that no matter what, you’ll always be there for them, is the perfect way to get them back – eventually. It may not happen overnight, or even within the next 6 months, but as long as you leave the door open, they’re bound to walk through it again. This is also a great way not to create any hard feelings between the two of you.

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Conclusion

Getting your ex back is not difficult. There is a good chance that this entire process may take some time. However, the wait will be worthwhile because your relationship will evolve into something much better than before. By accepting the breakup and letting your ex know that you’re willing to be their friend, you’re creating a relationship that just may last forever.

Remember that a romantic relationship is like “friendship set on fire”, and all relationships have a touch of friendship in them whether its family, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife or even pet relationships.

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