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How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Monday, March 7th, 2011




Now that you’ve done your time listening to sad songs and have literally blown through all the tissues in the Kleenex box, it’s time to start working on getting you and your boyfriend back together. But before you begin, I strongly recommend that you do a pros and cons list. Are you truly meant to be with your ex, or are you just planting a body in the space next to yours because you hate being alone? Because the only thing worse than being single and lonely is being in a relationship: And lonely. If you don’t have to go there, don’t. If you really feel you are meant to be with your ex-boyfriend for some portion of the foreseeable future, then keep reading.

Men are better at walking away from relationships than women are in many cases. So if ending it was his idea, you may have an uphill fight on your hands. However, relationships have a certain ebb and flow, and this one might just be taking a little break (even if one or both of you said “it’s over”.)

I’m going to make some suggestions on how to proceed, but it was your relationship and that was your guy. Feel free to dismiss any thoughts or ideas that don’t fit your particular interaction.

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back:

1.     Give him some time By some I mean 2-4 weeks or more depending on your situation. When a break-up occurs, people need space. Even if he loves and misses you madly, if you come back from a place of strength, it will look like anger. If you come from a non-confrontational place, he may view you as needy, or weak. None of these perceptions is true, so that’s why he needs time. Right now, his emotions are clouding how he sees things.

2.     Decide what you want from him There was a time, not so very long ago, that women wanted to get married and men didn’t. Not everybody, but enough people that it was a pretty solid generality. This is no longer the case. You need to decide if you want a ‘friend with benefits’ setup, a monogamous relationship, casual dating, etc. Don’t assume you have to pick up where you left off. Obviously, where you left off wasn’t working. So you need to do some hard thinking. How much are you willing to offer or accept?

3.     Request a face-to-face meeting He should be mature enough to grant you this wish. If he’s not, ask him to honor what you had. One request. It’s simple enough. If he grants it, great. If not, you need to make peace with the fact that it’s over.

4.     Meet in a place that has special meaning to you two as a couple This date is going to be about reminding him what was right about you two. You set the date, you set the tone. Wear his favorite everything, from hairstyle to heels and perfume to lipstick shade.

5.     Be the woman he fell in love with Don’t make this all about getting back together. Enjoy yourself. Talk, laugh – have fun. Look at him like your eyes have been starved for the sight of his face. Have a couple of drinks, and just talk. You two were best friends, for a time. If he’s digging in his heels, there’s a pretty good chance he’s fighting the fact that he still has feelings for you.

6.     Know your subject matter Let the evening carry the conversation, but when it’s time to broach the possibility of getting back together, you better already know exactly what you want to say. Consider your words carefully, because you better believe he will. Let him know you have been thinking about what went wrong. Ask him his perceptions. Hear him out. Don’t blow him off, tell him he was wrong, or in any way attempt to defend yourself. If he gets abusive about it, just look him in the eye and calmly say in a regulated tone of voice. “That’s not fair.” Because using the truth to cause someone pain isn’t fair.

7.     Give him more time Don’t ask for or demand an immediate answer. If you get one, great. But don’t leap to the worst case scenario if he asks for time to think. He can have all the time in the world. You’ll just be off living your life. And then do it. This isn’t a control gambit, this is a statement of truth. You have your whole life ahead of you. Life is too short to pine after an ex.

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I Like You Do You Like Me

Wednesday, October 13th, 2010




So you have met someone you like and you want to ask that person out on a date? Good for you. Do you know how to approach this person? I hope that you are not one of those people that use the same tired line that has been used for years: “I like you do you like me“. You really need to be more original than that.

Forget doing one-liners though, these usually sound so phony that they get you nowhere. Try instead just being honest and tell the person you would like to go out with them or get to know the person better. Just be straightforward just not brash. Keep it respectful and try not to be so nervous because  you just might blurt it out loudly.

Below are some other tips for approaching someone you like.

1- Pay Attention: Notice what this person likes or dislikes. Make it a point to know which type of coffee they like or what movies. You can engage them in just regular conversations in group settings to find these things out. If you work with this person, notice where they get their carryout for lunch. This will help you know which restaurants they visit. Noticing what this person is wearing and commenting is another good idea.

2- Have Confidence: Walk up to this person in a confident way. If you are afraid to look at them in the face, it will only scare them off. Just make sure not to be cocky about this. You need to show that you have self-confidence. No one likes someone with low self-esteem.

3- Pleasant Personality: Do not be a downer. Have a pleasant personality. Be in an uplifting mood. No one will like to be around you otherwise. While approaching a person you like be joyful but not giddy. Giddy is over the top. Just don’t act this part though; you should really love life.

4- Don’t Rush: Don’t push to have the relationship to be more than the other person is ready to accept. You have to move slowly when wanting to get to know someone you like better. So move slowly but make sure not to stand still either.

5- Be a Good Listener: Learn how to listen closely to a conversation. This will allow you to learn a lot about people by saying nothing. Just listen to what the other person is talking about. If you are approaching a person you like in a crowd when they are talking to someone, just listen quietly until they are through. This person will notice that you have good listening skills.

6- Don’t Be Aggressive: If you come on too strong, you will scare the person you like away. You can’t be too shy either or you won’t get any words out to talk to this person. Hit a happy medium with this and you will do just fine.

7- The Eyes! Make sure to also approach someone eye to eye. Anyone feels uncomfortable talking to someone who does not look them straight in the eye. Eye contact makes the person feel confident you are being truthful in what you say for one thing.

8- Watch the Volume: Don’t let your voice be too loud or too soft. Too loud can make you sound obnoxious or screaming, while too soft the person will have a hard time hearing you. Make sure you speak in a medium volume so your voice is comfortably heard.

9- Respect the Other Person’s Space: Don’t crowd the person you are approaching; this will make most people feel nervous. Allow them a comfortable distance between your two bodies. The idea is to make them feel relaxed.

10- Smile: You can smile at a person you like from across the room to initiate contact. Once they have acknowledged your smile then slowly move across the room. This way they already feel comfortable with you approaching them.

Now that you know some tips for approaching someone you like, you can be more comfortable doing so and forget the simple I like you do you like me question. Humans are social creatures and need someone with whom to share their experiences.

It is normal to hesitate a little at first approaching someone you do not know well. However, once you get past your nerves, you will be able to approach them and get to know them better.

How to Get a Boyfriend

Thursday, September 30th, 2010




 

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Are you yearning for a boyfriend? Do you want a guy to share things with? Most girls do want a special someone to go on dates with so you are not alone in this desire. It is nice to have someone to share your favorite things with. The problem is, knowing how to make the guy notice you.

If you do certain things you could scare a guy off instead of attracting him. So you need to be careful how you try to  approach. This post will try to help you understand how to get a boyfriend fast with a couple of tips that can help anyone; even if you’re in middle school or college . So feel free to read on.

How to Get a Boyfriend:

  • You have to know what type of guy you want to attract first. This way you do not go to the trouble of getting a guy interested who is not right for you personality wise. Do you want someone active or maybe you want a couch potato like you? Just some examples of what you can think of.
  • Always act naturally. Do not act like you are someone you are not. You want a boyfriend who likes you, for who you really are, not some persona that you have falsely portrayed. So be your true self. After all you play yourself perfectly!
  • Do not just look for physical appearance. It is all right for you to look for clean-cut guys, but don’t fall into the trap of looking for just the knock-down gorgeous guy. He may not have a personality to go with the looks. Look at the whole package, a guy who might not have outer good-looks might have a dynamite personality. So be friends with all sorts of guys looks wise when trying to find a boyfriend.
  • Get into a lot of activities where guys and gals both intermingle. This way you will be having fun while trying to meet the right guy. He will get to know you while you are involved in the activities together. This is probably one of the best methods for getting a boyfriend.
  • Don’t just sit at home waiting for phone calls either. Have a life! When a guy is interested in you he will find a way to get in touch with you. Besides, if he has your cell number he will text you! Go out and be involved in life.
  • Don’t latch on to the first guy that shows interest just because the rest of your friends have boyfriends. Hold out for the right guy! He will come along eventually.
  • Make sure you are still not harboring any old grudges. These could make you pass judgment on the new guy for no good reason. Get rid of your old baggage.
  • Learn about things that guys are interested in. Read up on what is going on in sports and politics lately. Guys don’t necessarily like to talk about girly subjects. How about the car show for learning about the new models of cars out? You just might attract a guy knowing things like these.
  • You can bring your friends into your plans when you know which guy you would like as your boyfriend. They can help you by telling him that you are interested in him. Who knows he may feel the same way.
  • These days do not be timid. Ask the guy you are interested in if you could buy him a latte or cup of coffee. You could also ask him something about a class you both take together. Nowadays, gals can make the first move.
  • You have to know how to boost a guy’s ego to keep him interested enough in you to be your boyfriend. This does not mean you have to gush over him, just be complementary of the successes he has.
  • Be happy with your life without a guy. This way with a boyfriend in it, it will be even better. If you are miserable because you don’t have a boyfriend and think your life lacks something, a boyfriend might not solve this. It might be your life that is lacking.

Follow the tips above and you will learn “how to get a boyfriend“. Along the way you might even find some other tips too that works. Just be patient and before long you will have someone special to enjoy your life with. Have fun getting your boyfriend!

How to Get a Boyfriend

Are you yearning for a boyfriend? Do you want a guy to share things with? Most girls do want a special someone to go on dates with so you are not alone in this desire. It is nice to have someone to share your favorite things with. The problem is, knowing how to make the guy notice you.

If you do certain things you could scare a guy off instead of attracting him. So you need to be careful how you try to get a boyfriend. Be confident without being intimidating. This article will try to help you understand how to get a boyfriend. So read on.

  • You have to know what type of guy you want to attract first. This way you do not go to the trouble of getting a guy interested who is not right for you personality wise. Do you want someone active or maybe you want a couch potato like you? Just some examples of what you can think of.
  • Always act naturally. Do not act like you are someone you are not. You want a boyfriend who likes you, for who you really are, not some persona that you have falsely portrayed. So be your true self. After all you play yourself perfectly!
  • Do not just look for physical appearance. It is all right for you to look for clean-cut guys, but don’t fall into the trap of looking for just the knock-down gorgeous guy. He may not have a personality to go with the looks. Look at the whole package, a guy who might not have outer good-looks might have a dynamite personality. So be friends with all sorts of guys looks wise when trying to find a boyfriend.
  • Get into a lot of activities where guys and gals both intermingle. This way you will be having fun while trying to meet the right guy. He will get to know you while you are involved in the activities together. This is probably one of the best methods for getting a boyfriend.
  • Don’t just sit at home waiting for phone calls either. Have a life! When a guy is interested in you he will find a way to get in touch with you. Besides, if he has your cell number he will text you! Go out and be involved in life.
  • Don’t latch on to the first guy that shows interest just because the rest of your friends have boyfriends. Hold out for the right guy! He will come along eventually.
  • Make sure you are still not harboring any old grudges. These could make you pass judgment on the new guy for no good reason. Get rid of your old baggage.
  • Learn about things that guys are interested in. Read up on what is going on is sports and politics lately. Guys don’t necessarily like to talk about girly subjects. How about the car show for learning about the new models of cars out? You just might attract a guy knowing things like these.
  • You can bring your friends into your plans when you know which guy you would like as your boyfriend. They can help you by telling him that you are interested in him. Who knows he may feel the same way.
  • These days do not be timid. Ask the guy you are interested in if you could buy him a latte or cup of coffee. You could also ask him something about a class you both take together. Nowadays, gals can make the first move.
  • You have to know how to boost a guy’s ego to keep him interested enough in you to be your boyfriend. This does not mean you have to gush over him, just be complementary of the successes he has.
  • Be happy with your life without a guy. This way with a boyfriend in it, it will be even better. If you are miserable because you don’t have a boyfriend and think your life lacks something, a boyfriend might not solve this. It might be your life that is lacking.

Follow the above advice and you will learn how to get a boyfriend. Along the way you might even find some other tips too that works. Just be patience and before long you will have someone special to enjoy your life with. Have fun getting your boyfriend!


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