100 Questions Before Marriage Blog

Are you in a relationship that is on shaky ground? Do you want to know how to save it before it ends? If you do then you need to learn what to do. Things can be done to put the relationship back on solid ground, but it will take some work.

If you made your partner mad then they may need a bit a time to calm down. Once they have done this, talk to them and see what happened that made them so mad. Tell them you are sorry and that it won’t happen again. Ask them what was that one thing that was said or done. If it was something stupid or callous that you did.

Now it might be that things are strained between both of you for no specific reason that can be named. This needs to be talked about too. Your partner could just be restless or bored. Maybe there is a way to spice your relationship back up. A two-day trip off away from everyone might be enough to spark the relationship up again.

Your partner may say it is something about your attitude. If they do say this, then listen to them without arguing. Do they say you are being too high minded for an example? If you are being this way you may need to get over yourself and try to see things from your partner’s point of view. Maybe you are just trying to be in charge too much and should learn how to let your partner run the show more often.

Remember that a relationship needs to be a partnership not a dictatorship. Both of you should have equal say in all things. When this balance gets tipped to one side or the other, the relationship can get a bit shaky.

Another reason for a relationship getting on the rocky side is what they call “empty nest syndrome”. This is when you have both been raising your children and suddenly they are gone to college or have gotten married. While you were busy with the kids you forgot to do coupling, and now you have to get to know each other again.

You may have to spend some time discussing what you now want to do with your lives now that you don’t have the kids to tie you down at home. This can put your relationship back on firm ground again.

As you can see here there are many reasons for a relationship to get shaky. Some of the reasons might be insurmountable like if you or your partner cheated on the other one. But most of the reasons with a little bit of effort can be worked on and the relationship can even be made stronger.

See you don’t have to just let a relationship go. With a bit of thought and effort you can save and keep the relationship going on for many more years. Now isn’t that why you entered into this relationship after all? Wouldn’t you go through life with a partner than alone? Most people like having someone to share things with. So talk things over and try to work things out before you just say goodbye. You will see that you probably can make your relationship solid again.

Making a long distance relationship work takes a bit more work than a regular one does. For one thing you do not have as much one-on-one time to be reassured about how your partner feels about you.

You also are not sure when you will see each other again either. Your partner may not either communicate all their day-to-day activities for you to know what they are doing.

This all makes insecurity for one or both of you. So you have to be prepared for issues like this. Be truthful with yourself about how hard this might be for you to go through and talk to your partner about it. Examine what you need from the relationship too.

1 - If you are a needy person who needs the physical companionship often, this a long distance relationship may not be the one for you. Needy personality types do tend to get more insecure easier.

2 - Now if you are the independent type who likes some alone time, you could do quite well with a long distance relationship. So look inside yourself before agreeing to start a relationship of this kind.

3 - If you know you are going to be more suspicious, because your partner is not with you on a regular basis this could cause trouble.

4 - Also you may know you will just be too lonesome and sad without them close by and this too could be an issue.

You have to examine who you are and figure out what you want before trying out this kind of relationship. Once that is done, there are a few things you should and shouldn’t do to make the relationship strong.

1 - Do be independent and have a life of your own separate from your partner. This gives you more to share in conversations and e-mails with them. Your partner will be pleased that you are having a fulfilling life on your own without them. It actually takes some pressure off of them.

2 - Find fun ways to have dates even though you are far away from each other. Meet at one of the game sites and play cards or have webcam dinners together.

3 - Make time to go see your partner. A weekend trip will give you some special bonding moments. These moments can be simple or elaborate events.

4 - Don’t be insecure and overly clingy; remember it is hard for your partner to be away from you too. If you make this even more difficult by your actions they may change their mind on the relationship.

5 - Don’t let your mind run wild and start thinking that your partner is up to no good just because you can’t see them. Nothing will finish off a relationship faster than lack of trust.

6 - Don’t make you partner have a reason to mistrust you. Being apart is hard and they need to know you are loyal.

Hopefully through the information given here, you will know how to make a long distance relationship work. If you are willing to go for it you also now know what you should and should not do. This will enable you to have a strong relationship no matter how many miles part you are.

In this life, we have many goals, one is usually to have a good relationship. This relationship fills our emotional needs, and sends us to new heights of happiness. But then it comes time to end the relationship.

This is the dilemma you are facing now. You wonder how in the world you are going to let go of this relationship. From the heights of happiness, you have now fallen into feeling depressed, angry, and even grief.

You are also feeling a bit lost and do not know what your next move should be. If you will just clear your mind of all these mixed emotions though you will see that you need to let go.

It is not always easy to let go of your relationship and the person you shared it with. But for you to move forward you must do this. You cannot live for today when looking back at yesterday. Also, you need to focus on what is in your future for you. So how do you successfully let go? Below are some things to do or let go off to move on:

1.Emotions and Feelings

First, you need to let go of the emotions of anger, resentment, and animosity you might have against you ex partner. You may even feel like you have been betrayed if your ex had cheated on you. A lingering guilty feeling may also be there if you feel responsible for the breakup. Allow yourself to feel all these emotions but then put them to rest and move on.

2. Envision Future

Then you need to start envisioning what lies out there for the future. But to truly envision your future you must let go of this relationship first. Then you need to start setting some new goals and developing some new dreams. Don’t even let it enter your mind that the relationship will start up again. You have to realize that this relationship is over let it go.

3. Dependency

There is a certain dependency you have probably developed to your partner. You will not have to stand on your own again. Take back your individual identity now that you will not be linked to the other person. You will need to get used to eating alone and doing other activities alone. This is not always easy to do. It is an important step though in letting go of the dependency on your now ex partner.

4. Putting the Relationship on a Pedestal

Try to steer clear of just thinking about the good times of the relationship. This makes you place the relationship on a pedestal where it does not belong. There were problems of some kind in the relationship or it would not have ended to begin with. You have to remember both the good and the bad times to look at the relationship in real terms. This way you can move on and start enjoying your single life again.

5. Contact

Stop all contact and make a complete break. Don’t even ask friends how your ex partner is doing. Just start forming your new life and try to find a new partner.

When you successfully let go of this relationship you learn to realize the past is just that the past. This will lift some much weight off you. You should move out of this experience feeling much stronger for going through this, and moving beyond it to strive for your future.