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There are friendship relationships and then the romantic relationships. Hopefully both types will be happy but that is not always the case. Either type of relationships can have its problems.

One person in that relationship can so something to upset the other one. Then the relationship is strained with tense feelings.

The two people involved have to wade through this to salvage their relationships then. There is not just one way to fix this problem. Everyone’s feelings heal at different rates.

You like other people try to go through your relationships without making anyone upset. There are just times that things don’t go right. Now unless you want the relationships to end, you have to do something to make amends for your actions that upset your friend (or boyfriend or girlfriend).

You might be one of those people that have trouble apologizing in person. If you are than find another way of apologizing so that the relationship can heal. You don’t want to leave the hard feelings there if a simple apology would remove them. You may consider writing an apology letter.

This letter should be very carefully worded so that is sounds sincere. It is easy for people to misinterpret the written word, so choose your words carefully. Speak of how you understand what you have done wrong and how upset they are. Most of the time the person that is upset just wants an apology and promise that the issue will not happen again. If the relationship was strong enough it will survive this upset and last for years after it.

The letter of apology should be short and right to the point. You should remember you are writing this because you care for this other person. If the letter is too long and complicated to read it may not be taken as serious by the person as a short more direct one. Below is a sample.

Sample Letter Of Apology:

Dear (insert person’s name),

I know that my recent behavior (you can further explain this if needed) has upset you deeply. I never meant for this to happen. Is there are way I can make up for this upsetting situation?

I would be more than happy to do what I can to prove to you my sincerity on this matter. If you only let me know how I can do this. Can we meet and talk face to face and discuss this openly. I promise to listen in detail to what you have to say on this matter.

Your friendship (adjust this word to fit the relationship level) means too much to me not to try to repair what I broke. Please let me have a chance to try.

I am so truly sorry that my behavior has caused you any problems. Please forgive my actions, I promise to do better in the future to keep this from happening again. I will be waiting to hear your answer.

Love (or your friend whichever fits best),

(Your Name)

Now that you see what an apology letter should be get busy writing yours. You will feel better apologizing for you actions even if the other does not accept you apology. Most people do have a tendency to accept a sincere apology though. Just remember to choose your words carefully.

There are relationships that happily form and there are relationships that have a sad ending. It even becomes sadder when the reason behind that unhappy ending is because one cheated on the other.

Let’s face it though; there isn’t any fancy law that prevents people from cheating enabling anyone to do it. Even you can do it actually, but that doesn’t mean you should go on doing it and cheat on every person that comes to your life. People have feelings and it is important to respect them. Who knows? Maybe the same may happen to you one day.

It is considered cheating when you start going for another person without your current partner’s knowledge. Sometimes people do that to avoid hurting other people’s feelings on the spot while others just want to escape the guilt.

There might be some instances where you realize your losses and may reconsider giving the relationship another chance. Sure the person you cheated on could be so hurt and angry that words cannot make a difference, but taking some time off and making a apology letter for cheating could prove to be something meaningful.

It isn’t done very often and that’s why it can be pretty surprising by the one reading it. Maybe the person demands answers or may want a second chance as well. A well written apology letter can tie both ends and bring about a better understanding.

The best way in composing a apology letter for cheating is to be short, honest, and straight to the point. Remember, you are doing this because you care for the person. If you make it too complicated and start making things up, you’ll end up hurting the person more and that’s just plain evil if you dive into that.

An example of a apology letter for cheating:

Dear <name>,

I’m very sorry for all the pain that you’ve gone through because of me. I realized that I don’t want to lose you and what I did was a big mistake. I was being selfish and felt I didn’t give you enough time for me to understand you more. I hope we can go back together and retrace our steps in a fresh relationship.

Love,

<name>

This is just a general example (sample) and not something to be copied. Use it as a guide and make it real personalized. Also make sure you write it and not type it so he or she can grasp your feelings more.

It is always good to make an apology and let out your feelings and respect for the person. It will not only give you a more comfortable feeling to start over, but it will also bring comfort to the one you cheated on too. The reaction may depend on the person’s attitude, but a well written letter of apology can really make a future changing difference.

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We have all been there, a fight or argument ensues, voices are raised, and things are said that really aren’t meant—well you might think you meant them, but your partner doesn’t, they want an apology. In the end of it all, it doesn’t really matter if you were right or wrong or if your sweetie was right or wrong. What you now face is how to say you’re sorry. A romantic poem  to say Im sorry is always a good idea.

Okay, we know, you are saying to yourself, “I’m no poet,” or “what’s a poem?” No one is asking you to be a poet like Byron, but with a little effort, you could try to make a short rhyme. Let’s change “short” to “little,” because with most of you out there, we know that “short” is a one-sentence poem—you will need a “little” more than that.

To write your poem, not the ones below, think about your spouse or partner and what they mean to you. Think really hard and, yes, we know, you love their curvy figure or handsome stance and all that stuff, but try to leave the sexy stuff out of your poem.

Next, don’t think about the argument itself and try to write a poem about it. You won’t get real far with that and end up with another fight. Finally, don’t type your poem on a computer and print it out. Yes, you can practice your poem and make changes for ease on the computer, but when you’ve got it right—handwrite it!

Your wife, husband or sweetie will love you forever for anything handwritten and you can bet that years from now when you are both cleaning out the attic, your poem will most likely be pressed in a book, or if they are really crazy about you—laminated FOREVER, with many copies! Let’s take a look at a good example of a “little” romantic poem to say Im sorry.

When I think of what you mean to me,
And how much that you do,
I know when I’ve been not so nice,
Especially to you.
I want you to be my sweetheart,
Forever—at any cost.
I apologize for what I said,
Without you, I’d be lost.

After that, a simple handwritten, “I love you,” will work. It’s not hard to think of ways to say you’re sorry in a romantic poem and we’ve only given you the basics here. If you really want to wow your sweetie with the intensity of how much they mean to you, do try to say something about your relationship. Here’s another example:

I love your hair, your nose, your eyes,
I know you best, I know your wise.
I know you know when I am wrong,
I’m sorry and apologize.
If I could pick out just one day,
To tell you what is true,
It would be the day I write this down,
With a simple, heartfelt, I love you.

This can really touch any heart because you are mentioning how much you love their attributes, how wise they are, and that you know that they know, that pretty much—you are wrong.

Remember, when writing a romantic poem to say Im sorry, try not to think of how your partner might look like her Aunt Dot or his Uncle Fred in twenty years. In your heart, you know you love them or you wouldn’t be with them, right? Even if you can’t answer this last question with total sincerity, if you do need to apologize, do it in a poem—they’ll love you forever for just trying.

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