100 Questions Before Marriage Blog

Once you know a guy for awhile you may want to delve further into his personality. This may take actually questioning the guy. It is hard to have a meaningful conversation without one person questioning the other in some way. But what questions do you ask a guy?

Questioning him should be a bit different then asking your gal friends questions. You girls probably talk about makeup, fashion, work, dreams for the future, and maybe events you see on the news. As you know most guys are not interested in the makeup and fashion end of things. The questions need to be of a more masculine nature.

They would rather talk about sports, work, and possibly news events. Guys do like to talk about their future plans too. They love to talk about their career plans usually. So you have to gear the questions to what guys like to talk about. If you don’t they are not going to want to answer the questions.

It is fun sometimes just to play a 20 question-type game aimed at getting the answers you want. Let the him come up with 20 questions he gets to ask you along with the 20 you are going to ask him. Take turns asking each other these various curiosities about one another. This way both of you can enjoy this exchange of information.

This can lead to a very meaningful moment in your relationship. It really can deepen the extent of how you feel about each other. So do not be afraid to ask.

Now make sure your questions are designed to get the answers you want. Be very specific on what you need to have an answer for. If you are having a hard time thinking of the questions to ask this article can help you. Below are 20 questions you can ask…

20 Questions to Ask a Guy:

1. Would you still love me if all my skin got burned and scarred badly?

2. Are you highly motivated to become wealthy during your lifetime?

3. Do you become almost addicted to anything you like a lot? This could be a hobby, food, video games, or even watching sports on TV.

4. Do you have a vision for where your career will take you in the near future?

5. Are you a person that is mechanically inclined or do you hate that type of task?

6. If you were stranded on a high mountain top, what type of things would you want with you?

7. Do you like warm or cold weather?

8. How do you like your coffee that is if you drink it?

9. Was your father bald headed?

10. What level of education do you have? Would you like to have more?

11. Do you know how to work on your car or do you always need a mechanic?

12. Are you handy fixing things around the house?

13. What flavor of ice cream is your favorite?

14. What type of underwear do you wear?

15. What brand of jeans do you like the best?

16. Which shoes are the most comfortable for you to wear?

17. What type of car do you like to drive in?

18. Have you ever gone hunting? If so do you like and still do it?

19. Do you enjoy camping, fishing, or hiking?

20. Do you like playing card games, especially poker? Also are you a chess player?

As you can see, by these questions the range of information that can be found out is mighty. Like and dislikes can be explored. There might be certain things you want to explore in depth, like religion and sexual views if you relationship has progressed that far. You could also be a workout fanatic looking for a partner, so your questions might be more in that vein.

If you are a sports fanatic you might want to know what team the guy roots for. You may also want to know if he minds doing mundane things with you like shopping. So write your questions carefully.

Whatever type of information you want to find out, questions are the tools to use to learn it. This goes with guys and in all your life. Never be afraid to ask the questions. The only wrong question is the one that is left unasked.

Learning new things about the one you love is usually a process. As the relationship grows and you spend more time with one another, you begin to truly know that person and see them for who they are. Still, who they were and who they plan to be is of great importance also.

These are things that may not reveal themselves quickly enough, and that’s why asking the right questions in the beginning of your relationship can save you time, possibly heart ache and/or forge a stronger bond based on admiration and a greater respect for each other.

So, what kinds of questions should you ask your lover? While you don’t want to make your spouse feel like a game show contestant by bombarding them with questions or putting them on the spot, feel free to ask fun and intimate questions over a dinner for two or while cuddling up on the couch.

To help you begin brainstorming, here is a list of questions of all kinds that you may wish to ask your loved one:

Questions to Ask Your Lover

1-10

1. Why did your parents give you your name and what meaning does it hold? Do you think it suits your personality?
2. How do you feel about your family?
3. How do you feel about my family?
4. What is your biggest regret and how would you have done things differently?
5. Have you ever been in love? How did you know it was love and what did you learn from that relationship?
6. How do you feel about your exes, honestly?
7. What is your relationship with your parents and how do you feel they contributed to who you are today?
8. Do you want to have children one day? If so, how many?
9. What is your idea of the “Perfect Life”?
10. Are you religious or spiritual? Why?

11-20

11. What political party do you identify with? Why?
12. What are your favorite childhood memories?
13. What are your thoughts on marriage?
14. Where would you want to get married? Who would you ask to be in the wedding party and where would you want to honeymoon after?
15. What would you say are your greatest strengths? What are your greatest weaknesses?
16. What are your biggest fears? How do you think you can overcome them?
17. What did you want to be when you grew up? How does that differ from what you are/wish to be today?
18. Have you ever gone through a rough break up? How did you get through it? What have you learned from it?
19. What constitutes cheating in your book?
20. If you had a million dollars, how would you spend it?

21-30

21. Who are the most important people in your life and why?
22. What is the most hurtful thing you’ve ever done to another person?
23. What do you like/dislike about me?
24. How has our relationship bettered your life?
25. How do you constitute an exclusive relationship? How do you honor it?
26. What is your worst habit? How could you break that habit?
27. In a marriage, who do you feel should handle the finances? The man, the woman or both going half on everything?
28. What kind of parent do you imagine yourself being? What kind of morals and values would you work diligently to instill in your children?
29. Could you see yourself marrying me? Why or why not?
30. What do you think would make me a good parent?

31-40

31. Do you leave the toilet seat up? Could you get in the habit of putting it down after each use?
32. Has a lover ever made you angry enough to strike them?
33. How would you define an abusive relationship?
34. Would you consider yourself open or a bit closed off?
35. Do you enjoy cooking?
36. Would you consider yourself a neat freak, a bit unorganized or very messy?
37. Do you find it difficult to trust others? Why? How has that affected your relationships?
38. Are you more of a budgeter or do you splurge often?
39. Do you think couples should have joint accounts, separate accounts or both?
40. Have you ever done something illegal?

41-44

41. What is your credit like? Do you have a lot of debt? How do you plan to handle that?
42. If we couldn’t have children together would you be open to adoption?
43. How much time do you like to spend with me, with friends and by yourself?
44. What is one thing no one knows about you?

So there you have it, a whole list of open ended questions to spark up a meaningful conversation with the person who just might be “The One”.  You’ll surely know – after thinking about their answers – whether or not they are.

Are you in a relationship that is on shaky ground? Do you want to know how to save it before it ends? If you do then you need to learn what to do. Things can be done to put the relationship back on solid ground, but it will take some work.

If you made your partner mad then they may need a bit a time to calm down. Once they have done this, talk to them and see what happened that made them so mad. Tell them you are sorry and that it won’t happen again. Ask them what was that one thing that was said or done. If it was something stupid or callous that you did.

Now it might be that things are strained between both of you for no specific reason that can be named. This needs to be talked about too. Your partner could just be restless or bored. Maybe there is a way to spice your relationship back up. A two-day trip off away from everyone might be enough to spark the relationship up again.

Your partner may say it is something about your attitude. If they do say this, then listen to them without arguing. Do they say you are being too high minded for an example? If you are being this way you may need to get over yourself and try to see things from your partner’s point of view. Maybe you are just trying to be in charge too much and should learn how to let your partner run the show more often.

Remember that a relationship needs to be a partnership not a dictatorship. Both of you should have equal say in all things. When this balance gets tipped to one side or the other, the relationship can get a bit shaky.

Another reason for a relationship getting on the rocky side is what they call “empty nest syndrome”. This is when you have both been raising your children and suddenly they are gone to college or have gotten married. While you were busy with the kids you forgot to do coupling, and now you have to get to know each other again.

You may have to spend some time discussing what you now want to do with your lives now that you don’t have the kids to tie you down at home. This can put your relationship back on firm ground again.

As you can see here there are many reasons for a relationship to get shaky. Some of the reasons might be insurmountable like if you or your partner cheated on the other one. But most of the reasons with a little bit of effort can be worked on and the relationship can even be made stronger.

See you don’t have to just let a relationship go. With a bit of thought and effort you can save and keep the relationship going on for many more years. Now isn’t that why you entered into this relationship after all? Wouldn’t you go through life with a partner than alone? Most people like having someone to share things with. So talk things over and try to work things out before you just say goodbye. You will see that you probably can make your relationship solid again.