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We have all been there, a fight or argument ensues, voices are raised, and things are said that really aren’t meant—well you might think you meant them, but your partner doesn’t, they want an apology. In the end of it all, it doesn’t really matter if you were right or wrong or if your sweetie was right or wrong. What you now face is how to say you’re sorry. A romantic poem  to say Im sorry is always a good idea.

Okay, we know, you are saying to yourself, “I’m no poet,” or “what’s a poem?” No one is asking you to be a poet like Byron, but with a little effort, you could try to make a short rhyme. Let’s change “short” to “little,” because with most of you out there, we know that “short” is a one-sentence poem—you will need a “little” more than that.

To write your poem, not ones below, think about your spouse or partner and what they mean to you. Think really hard and, yes, we know, you love their curvy figure or handsome stance and all that stuff, but try to leave the sexy stuff out of your poem. Next, don’t think about the argument itself and try to write a poem about it. You won’t get real far with that and end up with another fight. Finally, don’t type your poem on a computer and print it out. Yes, you can practice your poem and make changes for ease on the computer, but when you’ve got it right—handwrite it!  Your wife, husband or sweetie will love you forever for anything handwritten and you can bet that years from now when you are both cleaning out the attic, your poem will most likely be pressed in a book, or if they are really crazy about you—laminated FOREVER, with many copies! Let’s take a look at a good example of a “little” romantic poem to say Im sorry.

When I think of what you mean to me,
And how much that you do,
I know when I’ve been not so nice,
Especially to you.
I want you to be my sweetheart,
Forever—at any cost.
I apologize for what I said,
Without you, I’d be lost.

After that, a simple handwritten, “I love you,” will work. It’s not hard to think of ways to say you’re sorry in a romantic poem and we’ve only given you the basics here. If you really want to wow your sweetie with the intensity of how much they mean to you, do try to say something about your relationship. Here’s another example:

I love your hair, your nose, your eyes,
I know you best, I know your wise.
I know you know when I am wrong,
I’m sorry and apologize.
If I could pick out just one day,
To tell you what is true,
It would be the day I write this down,
With a simple, heartfelt, I love you.

This can really touch any heart because you are mentioning how much you love their attributes, how wise they are, and that you know that they know, that pretty much—you are wrong.

Remember, when writing a romantic poem to say Im sorry, try not to think of how your partner might look like her Aunt Dot or his Uncle Fred in twenty years. In your heart, you know you love them or you wouldn’t be with them, right? Even if you can’t answer this last question with total sincerity, if you do need to apologize, do it in a poem—they’ll love you forever for just trying.

There are a lot of instances where people make mistakes. Sometimes these mistakes can affect others and logical reasoning can point the blame on you. With no place to run or hide you are given the choice to keep making excuses or do the right thing and make an apology letter.

It doesn’t matter how severe your mistake was, the fact is you are responsible and you know it. Some may not have the guts to face the ones affected and look straight into their eyes and say sorry while others simply end up speechless. If you fall into any of those categories, then maybe you should let the pen and paper do the talking. Forget using the computer and typing it because a real sincere apology letter is written by hand.

Here are some things to know how to write an apology letter for any occasion.

Be Respectful

If you want to gain the person’s respect, you need to do the first move. Start out with a friendly greeting and make sure you address his or her name with proper spelling. A simple mess up can ruin the whole letter and possibly your chances of ever apologizing again.

Be Sincere

If you got plans to reason out so you can dodge, then you aren’t sorry at all! Keep it short and sweet and admit your wrongdoings with a small explanation why things turned out that way. Take note, this is different than making excuses. You don’t want to sound too defensive because that goes against the entire idea of being sorry in the first place.

Look Forward

What is done is done so bring forth some possibilities to go from there. You can start out by vowing never to commit that particular offense again and ask nicely to move on with things. Understand that this may take time especially if the damage is beyond repair. Still a well-written and sincere apology letter can lessen the blow and grant new chances.

Read It Again

Never ever send or give the letter once you are finished. Try to read it yourself and pretend that you are the one affected. See if you can grasp the message of your own words and make any adjustments if necessary. Try to understand how your reader will feel and fine-tune your message so you can hit all the right notes in restoring his or her mood. Don’t forget to check for grammar and spelling too.

There is nothing wrong in writing an apology letter if you mean every word you say. If that doesn’t fix things, either he or she is too affected or don’t have the energy for forgiveness. Don’t be discouraged and give it some time. What matters is you put your own efforts in composing a letter that is asking for forgiveness.

Once the person acknowledges your letter, give yourself a pat on the back and make sure you don’t commit the same mistake again. Apology letters don’t work well if overused so make the most out of them and always stand up to your writings.

When in a romantic relationship, there are many embarrassing questions to ask a guy that might arise. If you’re concerned about annoying or abashing your boyfriend, you might want to avoid these questions. They could cause an awkward situation for both of you. Just because a question seems harmless to you, doesn’t mean he’ll see things the same way.

Remember that men are sensitive creatures, despite their masculine bravado. Although they may seem aloof, they are most likely just masking their real feelings with indifference. Some of these questions might hurt his feelings or at the very least, make him squirm under your scrutiny. They may cause discomfort, tension or send him running for the hills. However, if you’re willing to take that chance, ask away! Here are the top ten most embarrassing questions to ask a guy.

Do you love me?
How many other girlfriends/partners have you had?
Do you want to get married?
Do you want children?
Do you think I’m fat/ugly?
What don’t you like about me?
Are you a virgin?
What’s your IQ?
What is your best-kept intimate secret?
Am I better than your last girlfriend/partner?

These questions are most embarrassing when the relationship is still new. If your boyfriend has never told you he loves you and you ask out of the blue, that can lead to a very uncomfortable situation. Plus, he might not answer the way you’d like. Asking how many partners he’s had before you can also cause embarrassment, particularly if he hasn’t had that many.

Asking questions about the future, marriage, and children is also off limits for new relationships, unless you’re trying to create an awkward silence. This could make things seem too serious and make him feel like the relationship is moving too quickly. Avoid these embarrassing questions until you know each other better.

The classic question, “Do I look fat?” can also make a man’s cheeks redden. If you haven’t been dating long, he’ll feel obligated to tell you no, even if it isn’t true. This can make him very uncomfortable and you might not like the reaction you get. It will also make you seem insecure and this isn’t something most guys are looking for in a girlfriend.

Virginity is another topic that can be very personal. Perhaps your boyfriend is saving himself for someone special, or maybe he’s been around the block. Either way, asking him about it before he chooses to confide in you himself can cause problems. He may feel pressured to answer untruthfully, especially if you’re in mixed company.

Intelligence can also be a touchy subject for many men. He may feel like you’re trying to assert your superiority if you ask him about his IQ, grades, etc. This can lead to feelings of inferiority and resentment. It’s best to let him talk to you about this only if he chooses. Plus, you can probably figure out how smart he is from a few minutes of conversation anyway.

Asking about previous relationships is also a no-no if you want to avoid embarrassment. It’s possible that he might not be completely over his last flame. This could be awkward for both of you.

If you want to stay out of these mortifying situations, avoid these embarrassing questions. Some shouldn’t be asked at all and others breached very carefully. When the relationship is fresh, any one of these questions could ruin the fun in an instant.

In certain situations, saying goodbye can be a very tough experience. Mainly because we notice their presence through their absence, and we realize what we did not when they were present.

Human beings have the tendency of behaving with the famous saying: “you don’t know what you have until you loose it”. Many people who say goodbye don’t have this in mind when taking that action and end up realizing that they actually miss that person when time passes by.

That is when they also notice that the more time we spend with a person, the more our life and personality gets molded with their own. This leads us to see the power that relationships are capable of producing in the life of a human being.

In a intimate relationship, long term distance can be a synonym of emotional agony. “I miss you” are the feelings that revolve around us while time itself turns into a silent and desperate call for the presence of our significant other.

The following is a short and funny goodbye sample letter/poem that can give an idea of what many people go through in a similar situation of saying goodbye because of long distance and time:

My two eyes are red, My feelings are blue,
I can’t sleep in bed, cause I will miss you.

If you don’t miss me, then something is wrong,
cause my heart is sweet; that’s were you belong.

Your distance is far, my passion is close,
both feelings are hard, and make my chest choke.

My Goodbye hurts today, because your farewell is tomorrow,
but tomorrow’s farewell is nothing, compared to today’s sorrow.

Goodbye sample letters are not easily to write because each situation is different, however, the above poem can be able to fit in many cases since it has a general point of view.

The following are a collected group of questions from previous post made on this blog about different topics that range from intimate, personal, cute, funny, silly, weird, sexual and hard questions that you can ask your boyfriend.

Note: This post is very long. If you don’t have time to read it now, feel free to bookmark it for later.

Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend:

Taken from post: 100 Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend

1.    Who are your ex girlfriends, (if any) and what made the relationship end as it did?
2.    What have you learned from life that makes you who you are today?
3.    What are your plans (goals) for the future?

Taken from post: 21 Questions To Ask A Guy

4.    If I had an accident and be left with terrible scars for life, would you still love me?
5.    What is it of me that you like the most?
6.    How do you remember your “first love”?
7.    After me, who is your closest female friend? (excluding your mother, and other family members)
8.    How do you remember my first impression?
9.    Would you leave me for a celebrity that really really liked you?
10.    Are you a virgin?
11.    Do you still have feelings for an ex?
12.    What is your best kept intimate secret?
13.    How do you visualize the perfect woman? What are her attributes?
14.    Who was your first girlfriend?
15.    How would you react if I was dating another guy?
16.    At what age do you plan to get married?
17.    What is it that you don’t like about me?
18.    What would be your best reason to break up with me?
19.    How would you react if the doctor told me that I have a deadly disease? Would you still love me?
20.    If I had to move far away for many years, would you wait for me?
21.    If we had a child born with health problems, how would you handle the situation?
22.    What are your financial goals for the future?
23.    How and when would you know if I am the right one?
24.    Do you believe in God? Why?

Taken from post: Fun Questions To Get to Know Someone

25.    Have you ever had the feeling you were being watched?
26.    So, do you really think we evolved from apes? Seriously?
27.    What would you do if you were the last person on this earth?

Taken from post: Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner

28.    What has been your most intimate experience?
29.    Who has been your most intimate partner?
30.    Do you still have feelings for an ex intimate partner?
31.    How long did your most intimate relationship last?
32.    Do you regret living those intimate experiences with that person?
33.    What made you go that far?
34.    Are you a virgin?
35.    Do you rather follow your heart (that does not think) or your head (that does think)?
36.    What do you think is better: premarital sex or premarital abstinence?
37.    Do you think the past matters in a relationship?
38.    How would you react if I had a more serious intimate relationship in the past?
39.    Do you think it’s OK for me to still have feelings for an ex?
40.    What is your definition of intimate?
41.    Do you agree with: were there was fire, ashes remain?

Taken from post: Random Questions To Ask A Guy

42.    What are your future financial plans?
43.    What is your mayor goal in life?
44.    What is your favorite book?
45.    How would you describe yourself in 3 words?
46.    What are your mayor flaws?
47.    Who is your hero?
48.    What do you consider most important in life?
49.    What would be your questions to ask on a first date?
50.    Do have any type of bad habit?
51.    What is your point of view of the world?
52.    What are your priorities on a first date?
53.    How would you describe the perfect life?
54.    What country would you choose for a honeymoon?Why?
55.    What has been your most embarrassing moment?
56.    What do you do when you are bored?
57.    How do you spend time with your family?
58.    Do you have any enemies? Why?
59.    What has been the most important decisions in your life?
60.    What experiences have marked you the most?
61.    If you could change the past, what would you change?
62.    How do you visualize your future?

The above questionnaire is an example of the type of get to know you questions that can help strengthen a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. They are also good premarital questions that can be taken into account before marriage.

Some can be considered questions to ask on a first date or questions to ask a potential boyfriend, but they can vary depending on each person, situation and the relationship it self.

But the best use of these questions is to get to know someone better. To help uncover the real and mysterious individual that hides behind the social mask. To see who will be the real person if that boyfriend turns into a husband and a life long spouse.

Within courtship, we only know up to a certain extent about our partner. Within marriage, things change. Both partners will have to learn how to cope with each other with all of their past, present and future for as long as they live.

This would include: family members, friends, neighbors, pets, ex relationships and personal and intimate experiences. The above deep questions for couples help unfold all of this. They are not to be considered a quiz or a survey, but rather simple questioning for better understanding.

As for the answer to these questions, they will depend on his reaction because  they are personal. As mentioned on a previous post, they have to do a lot with the truth, and sometimes, the truth hurts.

For more interesting, romantic and  fun questions to ask your boyfriend, get your copy of Michael Webb’s eBook 1000 Questions For Couples today!

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When people believe that it is too late to apologize, they actually think that they do not have a second chance.

However, too late to apologize means to never solve the problem a mistake has caused. People with this type of mentality will build up more and more unsolved issues as they go through life because there will always be offensive and non considerate people (who never apologize).

So the best solution is to always accept an apology, and if a mistake is committed, to always apologize. From the moment a person commits a mistake and on, it will always be present unless action is taken to say sorry.

The sooner we apologize, the better. But the reality is that it is never too “late to apologize” and the only situation were it is impossible to do so, is when the other person has passed away.

One of the main reason why it is good to say sorry as soon as possible is because you never know when you will see that person again. We are all destined to death and sooner or later, this is a moment that can come suddenly into any one’s life. The results could be that we are left with guilt.

Another reason why apologizing right away is crucial in a relationship is because time increases resentment. People don’t just forget about things right away. As time passes by, they could actually think that whatever was done to them was intentional.

As mentioned on previous post, all of our experiences in life form part of us consciously or subconsciously,  so even if they “forgot” about it, it is still present some were in their memories as an offense that was never resolved.

Many people who don’t apologize is because of their own pride, shyness, or because of the feeling of rejection or humiliation. For those who have such problems, it is even difficult to say sorry by writing a letter of apology.

That is why it is always good to look at the situation from all perspectives. If a person does not apologize, it could be because one of the reasons mentioned above, however it does not mean that they don’t want to apologize, but they are not capable to.

The mentality of “too late to apologize” means it is always too late to fix a problem, and since problems will always exist, it means that we will always have problems that will never be resolved.

Even if a person hurts you today, and says sorry 50 years from now, the best choice is to accept and forgive. This is because is better to have the rest of your life in peace with this person, than the rest of eternity full of resentment.

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