Why
can’t I have
“safe” premarital sex?
What
is
personally harmful about premarital sex are not only the consequences
that
we could see, but the consequences that we cannot see.
Many
think
that premarital sex is bad only because of pregnancy, venereal
diseases, abortion, etc. But there is a consequence far more important
and crucial that many
ignore:
Sex with
people that are not going to be your husband/wife, is an offensive
attack against the one who will be. |
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Your spouse will indeed
wonder about all your past romantic and sexual
experiences since he/she will form part of you for the rest of each
others
life. And it is common sense that nobody
would like to picture their spouse experiencing these unique moments of
intimacy with another person.
In other words: it's not
about doing
it safe or not, it is about preventing experiences that can negatively
impact and interfere with your permanent and life long relationship.
“...he
who sins
sexually sins against his own
body.” (1
Corinthians 6:18 [NIV]),
and since husband and
wife
were meant to be "..one
flesh"
(Matthew 19:5 [NIV]), he that
practices premarital sex is
offending his/hers future spouse, one way or another.
A common question is the
following:
"But I have
been with my partner for years! What if I am 100% sure that I am going
to marry him/her?"
Many
tend to say: “I have been with my girlfriend/boyfriend for
years. I
don’t see why I can’t have sex with him/her if we
have been together
for so much time?”
With
in courtship, there is no vow, no pledge, no promise, no pact, nor oath
that will guarantee that the relationship will persist or stay together
in anyway.
A
boyfriend/girlfriend relationship can end
at any time even
if the relationship has lasted a life time and even if both are sure
that they “love” each other.
Within
marriage, there is legal proof that both are a formal relationship to
the eyes of society and God.
If a relationship
ends
within courtship,
and if there were sex, you can be sure that this experience will be
similar to a divorce since the relationship went to its highest level,
but not to its highest commitment.
You can also be
sure that
this
experience will leave a tremendous amount of unnecessary
“emotional
baggage” since both became one flesh with in sex, and now
there
is no other choice but to rip that one flesh apart which will result in
emotional agony and extreme heartache. |
What's
wrong with sex before Marriage?
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